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False Promises and Lies

Giddy

Why do people lie and say they're going to do something then don't bother it really frustrates the hell out of me when people say yes im going to do that for you and then don't arrrgghhh

it really makes me so angry ... if i say im going to do something i do it so why do people lie i would rather they said maybe or i will try but im not promising at least i would be prepared then

does anyone else suffer this problem and get really angry when people let them down ?

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  • Neurotypicals have a very low say/do ratio - they promise a lot to everyone to make themselves feel good but continually fail to deliver. Get used to it. It's normal for all of them. They live this way being useless to each other and it doesn't seem to bother them. They don't even register it as lying.

    ASD people tend to be a bit more methodical and precise about these details.

    This is one of the major incompatibilities that I have when dealing with NTs. I had a manager that was so bad that my ability to talk to him was reduced almost to F*** OFF.

    Luckily, I worked on my own most of the time so didn't have to deal with them.

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  • Neurotypicals have a very low say/do ratio - they promise a lot to everyone to make themselves feel good but continually fail to deliver. Get used to it. It's normal for all of them. They live this way being useless to each other and it doesn't seem to bother them. They don't even register it as lying.

    ASD people tend to be a bit more methodical and precise about these details.

    This is one of the major incompatibilities that I have when dealing with NTs. I had a manager that was so bad that my ability to talk to him was reduced almost to F*** OFF.

    Luckily, I worked on my own most of the time so didn't have to deal with them.

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  • in reply to Plastic
    Plastic said:
    This is one of the major incompatibilities that I have when dealing with NTs. I had a manager that was so bad that my ability to talk to him was reduced almost to F*** OFF.

    I find that as people reveal themselves to just be liars or bullsh*tting, my respect for them goes down the pan.  I have had this with previous bosses whose management style and competence has been questionable.  One incident resulted in a boss threatening to fight me outside of the work venue because I picked holes in his methods and then eventually his arguments towards me.  He was just a bully and a stupid one at that.

    If someone said they will do something, then I expect them to do it in a timely manner and to a good standard.  Anything less and I will pull them up on it.  It may come across as antagonising, but it would just be easier if people only stated what they are actually going to do to save everyone's time and over-inflated expectations.

    My temper is much calmer nowadays, but lying and bullying/manipulation still make my blood boil and I will challenge those responsible.

  • in reply to Plastic

    i just find it so annoying one of the people who does this is someone who knows how much it annoys me yet still does it