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Communication in difficult situations

Lana55

Is it common for autistic adults to communicate indirectly through analogies from music, pictures, or jokes (such as https://www.facebook.com/pagefordelusions/) when they try to express themselves in difficult situations that can't be conveyed well enough through direct communication? Don't autistic people tend to be rather direct, instead?

By difficult situations I mean vulnerable situations, such as talking about romantic feelings or those related to a very bad meltdown. 

I'm asking because there's a lot of room for interpretation and ambiguity during indirect communication, which leaves me wondering if I'm "reading the signals" correctly or just imaging things. I have a rich imagination and that makes things hard to believe sometimes.

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  • Lana55 said:
    I have a rich imagination and that makes things hard to believe sometimes.

    Greets. (!) Just to provide another point-of-view... I myself have a SUPER-"rich" imagination, and that, um, allows me to be able to see how everything IS possible in Infinity. But I also have a massive LOGIC, which keeps it in check, in relation to whatever I know about to whom I am speaking. In being "direct" might you rather mean "telling it like it is", as opposed to "beating about the bush" (prevarication/stalling)...?

    I think, in what you say as a "vulnerable" situation, then we/I would simply clam up (not say anything). ! It is different for everyone and in different situations. In self-defence, or in protecting others, for example.

    Myself... I give an easy hint, and then give the interrogator a HARD Look, and say: Do you really want me to GO INTO DETAIL about that??

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    Disambiguating Cynosure said:
    Greets. (!) Just to provide another point-of-view... I myself have a SUPER-"rich" imagination, and that, um, allows me to be able to see how everything IS possible in Infinity. But I also have a massive LOGIC, which keeps it in check, in relation to whatever I know about to whom I am speaking.

    Nice. But you know that sometimes, even when you actually see something, you can't believe your eyes.

    Disambiguating Cynosure said:
    In being "direct" might you rather mean "telling it like it is", as opposed to "beating about the bush" (prevarication/stalling)...?

    Yes, buying time is also a factor.

    I'm not saying that communication is not hard for Aspies, but I'm telling you that if my friend wants something, he'll find a way to communicate it. And he'll communicate it fast, load and clear. He has a good excuse for not feeling well now, so I'll give him that.

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    Greets, again. I was not here yesterday, and so I only reply - sort of - to this now...

    Lana55 said:
    I'm not saying that communication is not hard for Aspies, but I'm telling you that if my friend wants something, he'll find a way to communicate it. And he'll communicate it fast, load and clear.

    ...This is very very true. But I did not know that you were asking on behalf of "a friend"... this is a NEW factor. And so as I do not know about your "friend"'s imagination compared to what you Post... I may leave off from here, now, sorry. There are other people here to talk to, and so do not worry...

    Lana55 said:
    Nice. But you know that sometimes, even when you actually see something, you can't believe your eyes.

    ...I believe my own eyes fine, Thank You. If I see something weird/new, then I have a lot of compensators... Experience, Logic, Myth, Books, Other people's advice... that sort of thing. Nothing is impossible... and so I believe that everything is possible... even if it is just not "Common", that is all.

    Please do not regard this as a "hostile" Post - for it is not! Good Luck to you, and do listen to the others who also post here!

  • in reply to Disambiguating Cynosure

    Ironically, it is me who mis-communicated this time. I realised my message above was taken out of context, and it would have only made sense in light of my previous posts in this thread. Sorry...

    I don't know if there's a right way or a wrong way to communicate. Just like people speak different languages, people also have different communication styles. The fun part to me is learning how to speak someone's language. And, like learning any language, you can learn a communication style through feedback. That's my opinion :) 

  • in reply to Disambiguating Cynosure

    P.S. ...sometimes "Autistic" people are said to "communicate" things in the "wrong way", or in a manner which may be misunderstood. This does happen. 'Bye for now.

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  • in reply to Disambiguating Cynosure

    Ironically, it is me who mis-communicated this time. I realised my message above was taken out of context, and it would have only made sense in light of my previous posts in this thread. Sorry...

    I don't know if there's a right way or a wrong way to communicate. Just like people speak different languages, people also have different communication styles. The fun part to me is learning how to speak someone's language. And, like learning any language, you can learn a communication style through feedback. That's my opinion :)