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Communication in difficult situations

Lana55

Is it common for autistic adults to communicate indirectly through analogies from music, pictures, or jokes (such as https://www.facebook.com/pagefordelusions/) when they try to express themselves in difficult situations that can't be conveyed well enough through direct communication? Don't autistic people tend to be rather direct, instead?

By difficult situations I mean vulnerable situations, such as talking about romantic feelings or those related to a very bad meltdown. 

I'm asking because there's a lot of room for interpretation and ambiguity during indirect communication, which leaves me wondering if I'm "reading the signals" correctly or just imaging things. I have a rich imagination and that makes things hard to believe sometimes.

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  • Lana55 said:
    I have a rich imagination and that makes things hard to believe sometimes.

    Greets. (!) Just to provide another point-of-view... I myself have a SUPER-"rich" imagination, and that, um, allows me to be able to see how everything IS possible in Infinity. But I also have a massive LOGIC, which keeps it in check, in relation to whatever I know about to whom I am speaking. In being "direct" might you rather mean "telling it like it is", as opposed to "beating about the bush" (prevarication/stalling)...?

    I think, in what you say as a "vulnerable" situation, then we/I would simply clam up (not say anything). ! It is different for everyone and in different situations. In self-defence, or in protecting others, for example.

    Myself... I give an easy hint, and then give the interrogator a HARD Look, and say: Do you really want me to GO INTO DETAIL about that??

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  • Lana55 said:
    I have a rich imagination and that makes things hard to believe sometimes.

    Greets. (!) Just to provide another point-of-view... I myself have a SUPER-"rich" imagination, and that, um, allows me to be able to see how everything IS possible in Infinity. But I also have a massive LOGIC, which keeps it in check, in relation to whatever I know about to whom I am speaking. In being "direct" might you rather mean "telling it like it is", as opposed to "beating about the bush" (prevarication/stalling)...?

    I think, in what you say as a "vulnerable" situation, then we/I would simply clam up (not say anything). ! It is different for everyone and in different situations. In self-defence, or in protecting others, for example.

    Myself... I give an easy hint, and then give the interrogator a HARD Look, and say: Do you really want me to GO INTO DETAIL about that??

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  • in reply to Disambiguating Cynosure
    Disambiguating Cynosure said:
    Greets. (!) Just to provide another point-of-view... I myself have a SUPER-"rich" imagination, and that, um, allows me to be able to see how everything IS possible in Infinity. But I also have a massive LOGIC, which keeps it in check, in relation to whatever I know about to whom I am speaking.

    Nice. But you know that sometimes, even when you actually see something, you can't believe your eyes.

    Disambiguating Cynosure said:
    In being "direct" might you rather mean "telling it like it is", as opposed to "beating about the bush" (prevarication/stalling)...?

    Yes, buying time is also a factor.

    I'm not saying that communication is not hard for Aspies, but I'm telling you that if my friend wants something, he'll find a way to communicate it. And he'll communicate it fast, load and clear. He has a good excuse for not feeling well now, so I'll give him that.