Published on 12, July, 2020
hi I’m Gareth 26 Barton on Humber North Lincolnshire UK,
i got adhd and Asperger’s syndrome and pda currently my life is in terrible disarray as I’m not coping with every aspect of my life nor coping daily life please I’m begging for support as I need to understand why everything is overwhelming and unsettling for me
Hello and welcome.
AnominousBartonian said:currently my life is in terrible disarray as I’m not coping with every aspect of my life nor coping daily life
I can relate to that. I also have AS diagnosis, and suggested ADHD, and what feels like resistance to demands I set myself as well as those from others... poor 'executive function' aggravated by lack of sleep.
AnominousBartonian said:please I’m begging for support as I need to understand why everything is overwhelming and unsettling for me
Is it really 'everything' though? Or is it some of the things you think you should be able to cope with and so are preoccupying you? Just pick one thing then... what do you think your body needs - water, food, sleep...? Relieve the immediate physical discomforts that you can Then go onto the next thing, a little task, without thinking about it for more than an instant ... was that overwhelming and unsettling?
Maybe tomorrow take a few hours off from trying to sort things out in your life and your head... go out and notice new stuff instead.
Who in your life can you ask for help?
Barely anyone except for on here
Currently the thing that is bothering me most is my over active mind about continence
I remember reading a post maybe only a month or two ago that mentioned something similar, though only now had time to try to find it.https://community.autism.org.uk/f/introduce-yourself/12590/waves-hello-from-east-midlandsAnyway, I agree with Cassandro's suggestions of getting support, as it does seem you are quite distressed about this. It may be helpful to mention autism while seeking help.
Well done, that sounds like progress. I'm glad you managed to communicate some of this to your dad.
I suspect that part of it will be acceptance of your desires, but part may also be learning ways to modify your behaviour in a way, so that it doesn't inconvenience you or others.
Getting support is the easy part it’s the making my parents awareness and understanding of the disposal hygiene thing u mentioned however I have just seen a doctor just a few mins ago and got an emergency referral for mental health and dad told them what my needs are and what I’ve explained so far to him