Okay, so just a little thought experiment to get you clever and creative folks discussing...
Morpheus sits you down and places a small green pill in front of you saying how it will instantly and painlessly 'cure' you of your autism, giving you the neurotypicality you would've had from birth, had things been different.
Do you take the pill?
No. To be able to see patterns of behaviour in humour, like I can, is a gift. Yes the rest can suck, but being the outsider is in the special.
I'd have to wish my two Daughters out of existencce so that's a NO.
All I wish is that I knew about it right from the start , I have a lifetime of merciless self-recrimination behind me, I'd rather not have gone through that
I've heard a few people say the same thing, wishing they'd had their diagnosis as a child instead of in adulthood, but I can't understand that. Back when I was a child, in the 70's and 80's, (even if the diagnostic criteria HAD existed) there were NO support services for autism! Had I been diagnosed back then I'd have been even more marginalised than I was by struggling along in ignorance by myself.
Services nowadays are only beginning to catch up and children now have access to much more help but they're still dropped from the radar as soon as they hit 16 - in some ways I wonder if that's worse than what I went through because I wasn't lulled into a false sense of security in expecting people to understand me. I think it's cruel not to provide services for teenagers and young adults too.
Unless you all mean that you wish you were children nowadays instead of back in the bad old days? While that would be better in terms of service availability, I wouldn't want to revisit my childhood for ANYTHING!! (But that's a whole different story ...)
I agree Endymion. I have often said, my only ever, what I would call, ‘real’ childhood friend, was a boy in my first year at school. He soon got sent away to a ‘special’ school, whatever the hell that was. And the truth is, if they had put me in a room, meeting my needs for food and shelter, I would have been quite happy, to stay all day long in that room, by myself. As such, that didn’t happen. I somehow fell through the net, even though I had been admitted as a child, to the hospital for kids with learning difficulties. So I had to learn, much needed survival skills, if I was ever going to have a life outside of a single room and for that, I am grateful my autism wasn’t picked up sooner. I may not use all the skills I learned but what I can do, is now discern which of those skills are most useful to me now, in light of my diagnosis and as an adult with a good deal of life experience, I’m in a better position now to be able to make decisions, than I was when I was younger. So I would say, my diagnosis came at just the right time.
Given that I attribute nearly every milestone in human invention to autism, I would say no. Also all of my ancestors going back at least 300 years have strongly autistic traits (with both positive and negative effects very evident in every generation). Therefore for me, autism is a racial trait not a disorder.
I think it must be totally dull to be NT, making lots of small-talk while not understanding how anything complicated works.
I’m the same as you NeuralSoupKitchen and trust me, nt’s think our world/life is equally as dull as what we think their lives are. They don’t need to understand how anything complicated works, in fact, none of us knows how anything complicated works, such as the human body. It’s just two equally valid but different takes on life, both are needed. We need less autistic people and more of the foot soldiers, let’s say, that’s why there are more nt’s than autistics. It’s no ‘better’ to be one or the other and they would no sooner be us as we would them.
How do insert a poll into your posting?
No, I want manage my identity-not erase it. I have only just found out-at the age of 59 that I am Autistic (as yet, not officially diagnosed)
Let's just say that I have had a "difficult" life and just wish I had known about this from the start, I would not have spent so much time being so savage against myself for what I thought was just plain stupidity and mental weakness.
If someone offered me a pill that could take care of that, I would bite his hand off!
How is it possible to "control " your life when you have ASD's? I find that my inability to understand a lot of what I hear and see from others has had a crippling effect on every aspect of my own life. "Control"?- you may as well ask me to sprout wings and fly!
I have no friends-but can live with that, isolation brings peace of mind as I feel there is a sort of "pressure" to conform to certain norms which cause most people no difficulties but baffle me because I don't get what is required,. This invariably leads to my rejection. I am tired of being rebuked for " only wanting thiings done My Way, and for "thinking myself special" or better than the "others" For my part, I find people hypocritical, dishonest and often guilty of ignoring the rules they set for others if it is in their own selfish interests.
For example,I worked in the Care sector and remember being closely questioned in Job interviews on my attitudes to any abuses I may come across, I always stated that I would report antything I saw which I believed constituted abusive treatment, this is the only correct course of action to take and this was accepted as a satisfactory answer However, when I did report abusive behaviour, a few days later i found myself being accused of worse offences than I had reported by the friends and colleagues of the people I had complained about and then sacked with no right of appeal.,The person(s) I reported are still in their jobs, they are part of a team, organised and battle-hardened.
When you are new in a Care job, you are on trial for a minimum of three months any slip in that period could easily result in dismissal, experienced Carers know all of the tricks and the right things to say so if you are the new guy who turns up and starts making waves-i.e. doing the job properly and conscientiously they will lie to protect themselves and their mates and if you open your mouth, you are out of the door. This happened to me twice..
Control is alien and no more attainable than a Superpower.
You say " Stand here, Zbigniev "