Fed up

Hi NAS35296! Just wanted to say we are taking over your thread somewhat, but I hope it allows you to see there are possibilities to having something to do rather than just work, volunteer to help others, help build if you can,many people feed and house volunteers in payment for work.

I hope you get some inspiration from all of our dreams and aspirations, x()x

But I hope you will find support and some solace and comfort here.....it is tough...but you’re not along here x

thanks guys, this thread has helped more than you know. Good advice! I need to broaden my horizons, break out of this not so comforting zone. Money is tight but I could save up and go abroad next year I drive but have no car so I could save for one. I could take up poetry or art, stop playing games. I gave up smoking last Christmas and got heavily into vaping its something I would like to stop too but the nicotine withdrawals are so bad, perhaps I could buy a tent and camp out in the woods for a week far away from any nicotine sources until it goes away maybe I'm just crazy tho lol

Change is a big one to deal with full stop, but sometimes it is needed to counteract any ruts we find ourselves in.

Change can be broken down into small steps, so it is easier to manage.  Think about what you would like to change and pick one of those things and break it down into smaller chunks.  So for example, you say you do the same things everyday, pick one of those things to change.

I am trying the same thing at the moment with exercise.  I used to be very fit, but I have hit a rut that I am struggling to get out of due to routine and fatigue combined.  So I am starting to incorporating walks into my routine.  Instead of driving to the shops, I will walk.  Instead of playing on my computer games for say 2 hours, I will instead spend 1 hour on my computer and 1 hour walking.  From here I will build myself up into jogging and maybe some other exercise, but it is all baby steps.  If I went straight in at hard exercise like I used to be able to do, it would stress me out both mentally and physically too much and would make me feel worse.

Break everything down into steps and you will be able to do it.

Change. That's the big one I struggle with.

Change. That's the big one I struggle with.

In my shady past, I've tried evening classes in French, German and Russian.  Also did 'AS' levels in Physics, Chemistry and Biology.  Achieved grade As in all three.  Also GCSEs in Computer Science and Accounting ( Also grade As).  The real reason I went was for the company and female company in particular.

To avoid repetitive behaviour.  I try walking new routes between even familiar places.  Figure out what makes one autistic and try to behave differently to break the pattern.

I agree. Learning another languge is also a useful diversion. Challenge the mind, and see how the life that is enforced as "normal" here, is not the only way of life in this world.

29 years young!

You still have your youth and I hope, health.

Try volunteering it will help you meet people and maybe get a well paid job.  (Or so I've been told).

Or if you have the money, go on holidays to see new places.  Either travel alone or try organised package holidays.  Stay in some 'nice' hotels.

Try evening classes to improve your education. Also good place to meet women.

Or apply to university, if you haven't been.