Hi all. I'm new to the group so sorry if this has been asked before. My 10 year old daughter has a new diagnosis of autism after 7 years of struggling with her behaviour/traits etc. However we are struggling increasingly with clothing issues. Everything is too tight/scratchy etc etc the biggest issue is underwear And dislikes anything that she has to wear. I've tried all styles of underwear and a range of sizes. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions. Specific seamless underwear are just too expensive. Please help!!
I have very little advice to give, all I have learnt is that you do whatever it take to keep them happy. Is she having a meltdown because you are trying to get her to wear something more appropriate? If yes, then just let her wear whatever she is comfortable in however inappropriate it is. Sorry I've not been any help at all
As an adult with dyspraxia/ DCD the issue of clothes is a big issue. My SD16 has the sensory issues of temperature insensitivity so wears lots of layers as does Bonsai's daughter.
On clothing that itches
The big thing is seam free and encased elastic. Bamboo, cotton and silk are good options. Merino can be a bit hit or miss.
On kids wearing layers: start deodorant early and do social stories. We struggle because SD16s bio-mother is not reinforcing the message so she only gets reinforcement with us. Have several hoodies and leggings that are acceptable and get her changing daily (or more frequently). Get GP to prescribe Vitamin D.
I've found SD16 will agree to try new things as long as they are covering. Her birthday/Christmas presents from me will include a very lightweight hoodie made with enclosed seams. I'm just hunting out fabric. Also looking into a light trouser pattern
it might be a sensory or reassurance thing for her. when I feel like I'm struggling I need to wear one of my dad's old shirts and some of my scarf collection to help me feel safe and more in control. If that is what your daughter is doing you might be able to help her find something different, maybe a object or piece of Jewellery to work in the same way for her and be suitable for any weather. if that doesn't work see if you can get similar shaped clothing in thinner materials that she is fine with the feel of.
Hi I feel your pain my son is 4 and all he wants to wear is shorts in this freezing cold weather , if it not shorts he is naked most of the time in the house -Lucy