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Excluded from residential trip for reacting to bulling.

NAS93142
17 days ago

Hi

my 12 year old gets bullied everyday the school know who the main bullies are but when they bully the whole class laughs.

The bully’s mimicking him when he growls when he is concentrating and doesn’t want to make an error or unneat work. As he travels round the school the bullies do my sons growl.

In class they whisper to him and say tell teacher to shut up or we will hit you. My son tells me it goes on so long he gives in and shouts out to the teacher.

when he tell the bullies to stop he is removed from class.

The bully’s which are girls made a barrier so he couldn’t get into class every lesson when he tried to push past I was contacted to say my son was going to my charged for sexual aas he touched girls chest ( as he tried to get past)

he has been put in a head lock held on the floor and kicked in the head.

Another boy put a stick up his anal passage and nothing was done.

He has been given a chart if he ignores the bullying and not shout out for them to stop he will get blue tack. Surely they shouldn’t be laughing at him doing his autistic noises in first place.

Two weeks ago he threw his bag from a hiding which had a metal water bottle attached when two boys from class were doing his neurodiverse noise of growling . The bag missed the boys.my son has been banned from the school residential next week for throwing his bag.

They said they didn’t haves the staff to let him go plus he is deemed a danger,

Any advice and help my son is being discriminated against. This is the second trip he has been banned on. 
what can I do?

my son has had an assessment for counciling he has told them he feels suicidal. As he doesn’t understand why he gets punished for reacting ,when the bully’s aren’t stopped. He cry’s every evening at home.

The whole class laugh when he is being mimicked,my son gets removed from class not bully.

what can I do isn’t it his human right not to be bullied. It’s same children every time ?

please help I have developed a a terrible skin rash over the stress of my sons bullying I don’t know how to protect him . Anything legally I can do ?

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  • 17 days ago

    That's terrible and no way should the school be allowing that sort of behaviour from the bullies.

    NAS93142 said:
    He cry’s every evening at home.

    I think you should seriously consider keeping him out of school until they start to take the bullying seriously. The harm being done to his mental health could have serious repercussions. 

    NAS93142 said:
    He has been given a chart if he ignores the bullying and not shout out for them to stop he will get blue tack.

    He should not have to ignore it. I endured a lot of bullying at secondary school and whenever I tried to fight back I was hauled in front of the headmaster and punished. I therefore started to keep my head down and ignore it. Looking back that was certainly not the right approach and it was very damaging to my mental health. He needs to be encouraged to alert teachers every time something happens. 

  • 14 days ago in reply to Autonomistic

    Yesterday he was chased down the corridor so he hid in lift the said bully then shouted at top off voice he’s in the lift,he got a senior detention for being in lift. I complain the reply I got was , that’s Lucian’s word ! I’ve yet to respond I’m disgusted.

  • 13 days ago in reply to NAS93142

    I agree with @Snowkatt that it is time to get him out of there quickly and think about your response later. 

    Can you imagine what it must be like for your son, being confronted with his bullies in school on a daily basis, knowing that teachers will not help him and will likely actively choose to believe the bullies. It is making life unbearable for him and doing all kinds of harm to his mental health.

    The bullies can and will do a BAFTA worthy performance in front of the teachers afterwards, which is why they are more likely to be believed. Meanwhile your son will most probably have what the teachers wrongly see as the hallmarks of a liar, autistic traits such as lack of eye contact and verbal responses that are deemed inappropriate. It is a deeply unfair and unjust reality that so many of us repeatedly encounter throughout our lives.

    There are serious safeguarding issues here and the school have repeatedly failed to demonstrate that they are willing or able to keep your son safe.

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  • 13 days ago in reply to NAS93142

    I agree with @Snowkatt that it is time to get him out of there quickly and think about your response later. 

    Can you imagine what it must be like for your son, being confronted with his bullies in school on a daily basis, knowing that teachers will not help him and will likely actively choose to believe the bullies. It is making life unbearable for him and doing all kinds of harm to his mental health.

    The bullies can and will do a BAFTA worthy performance in front of the teachers afterwards, which is why they are more likely to be believed. Meanwhile your son will most probably have what the teachers wrongly see as the hallmarks of a liar, autistic traits such as lack of eye contact and verbal responses that are deemed inappropriate. It is a deeply unfair and unjust reality that so many of us repeatedly encounter throughout our lives.

    There are serious safeguarding issues here and the school have repeatedly failed to demonstrate that they are willing or able to keep your son safe.

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