i'm a 29 yr old man with aspergers syndrome I haven't worked for 5 years I live alone have no friends and don't know how to get out of this rut I'm in I'm fed up with ritualistic/repetitive behaviours I see my whole life passing by In front of me I just want it all to go away I just want a normal life I literally do the same thing everyday, wander into town have breakfast come home play games watch t.v this isn't the life I wanted I should have a job a family ect I ******* hate the world
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If you want things to change then it's down to you to make them. You need to make an active decision to apply for jobs, find interest groups so you can meet people. Life is hard work, friendships take effort to form and maintain and you have to actively want to do that.
On Monday instead of wandering into town and buying breakfast why not go to the job center, apply for a few dozen jobs, pick up some food and cook that at home for breakfast and lunch. Pick something you enjoy and find a local club, that could be games, sport, photography etc. If you want to make a change in your life then you have to do it, start today, do more tomorrow, a little bit every day is all it takes. You can make the changes and in a year's time you can look back and see how different life is, or you can change nothing and in a year's time you'll look back and wish you had, that's the choice.
Change. That's the big one I struggle with.
Change is a big one to deal with full stop, but sometimes it is needed to counteract any ruts we find ourselves in.
Change can be broken down into small steps, so it is easier to manage. Think about what you would like to change and pick one of those things and break it down into smaller chunks. So for example, you say you do the same things everyday, pick one of those things to change.
I am trying the same thing at the moment with exercise. I used to be very fit, but I have hit a rut that I am struggling to get out of due to routine and fatigue combined. So I am starting to incorporating walks into my routine. Instead of driving to the shops, I will walk. Instead of playing on my computer games for say 2 hours, I will instead spend 1 hour on my computer and 1 hour walking. From here I will build myself up into jogging and maybe some other exercise, but it is all baby steps. If I went straight in at hard exercise like I used to be able to do, it would stress me out both mentally and physically too much and would make me feel worse.
Break everything down into steps and you will be able to do it.
thanks guys, this thread has helped more than you know. Good advice! I need to broaden my horizons, break out of this not so comforting zone. Money is tight but I could save up and go abroad next year I drive but have no car so I could save for one. I could take up poetry or art, stop playing games. I gave up smoking last Christmas and got heavily into vaping its something I would like to stop too but the nicotine withdrawals are so bad, perhaps I could buy a tent and camp out in the woods for a week far away from any nicotine sources until it goes away maybe I'm just crazy tho lol