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10 year old daughter with extreme anger HELP

Cocohayes

Hi all

does anyone have any advice/help or tips on how we can deal with our 10 year old daughter and her anger?? 

the smallest things are making her explode in rage and she won’t talk about it after so I can’t even find out what the root cause of it could be.

thank you

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  • One thought, by "after" do you mean immediately after or the next day kind of "after".  If she's in meltdown due to well anything which may have overloaded her she'll be unlikely to be able to communicate that straight away, she'll have to recover from the melt down first.  She might be able to tell you in a calm moment a day later.

    I would remember that the "smallest thing" is likely to be one small thing that has come on top of a bombardment of "small things" (which are in fact pretty big things for Autistic people) which she's had to endure all day.  What do school say?  Does this happen at school?  Often times Autistic girls spend all day holding in distress and anxiety due to sensory overloads, information processing and social exclusions and /or the strain of socially masking, and then explode the minute they are home precisely because it's a safer environment.

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  • One thought, by "after" do you mean immediately after or the next day kind of "after".  If she's in meltdown due to well anything which may have overloaded her she'll be unlikely to be able to communicate that straight away, she'll have to recover from the melt down first.  She might be able to tell you in a calm moment a day later.

    I would remember that the "smallest thing" is likely to be one small thing that has come on top of a bombardment of "small things" (which are in fact pretty big things for Autistic people) which she's had to endure all day.  What do school say?  Does this happen at school?  Often times Autistic girls spend all day holding in distress and anxiety due to sensory overloads, information processing and social exclusions and /or the strain of socially masking, and then explode the minute they are home precisely because it's a safer environment.

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  • in reply to Dawn

    Hi Dawn

    thank you for responding. school have said she can literally go from 0 to 100, but can mostly bring herself back down with breathing techniques and grounding. She has been having more outbursts at school with one or 2 of them being violent (arms and legs flailing, screaming etc)