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Saddness after diagnosis

Ma.ra.

Dear All,

I wish for your support. I am a late diagnosed women,42, and yesterday I went to therapy and told everything I’ve learnt about autism/my autism very proudly and my therapist was very happy but also said I am going to deal with this during my whole life. I got shocked. I thought we figure out the neurotypical world and our autism and build some switch modes when we need. I thought it is like a Master degree and then you are good to go. But as the way I understood my therapist, it is gonna be a long thingy. Would you be so kind to write me positive things cause I got very very sad. Disappointed My friendships are very new and I don t wanna overwhelm them and also I tried to start to explain my wiring but they somehow invalidate this and the struggle and the sadness and it is not helping me. Thanks so much even for like an emoji now!

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  • Though you will always be autistic it is not unrelieved gloom. With a clinical diagnosis you are now aware of why you are the way you are. Before I realised that I was autistic, and was subsequently diagnosed, I thought that most people had similar problems to me, but were just much stronger than me. I now know that most of my problems do not affect neurotypical people at all, and they would hardly be able to imagine their existence. Since learning that I was autistic, I have been better able to be kinder to myself for not being able to sail through social and sensory situations like others and to realise that limiting interactions that cause me distress, or 'bailing out' of situations that have become unbearable, are legitimate things to do. Once you know your limitations are valid, it is easier to create 'work arounds' where once you might have felt that muddling through was the only option.

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  • Though you will always be autistic it is not unrelieved gloom. With a clinical diagnosis you are now aware of why you are the way you are. Before I realised that I was autistic, and was subsequently diagnosed, I thought that most people had similar problems to me, but were just much stronger than me. I now know that most of my problems do not affect neurotypical people at all, and they would hardly be able to imagine their existence. Since learning that I was autistic, I have been better able to be kinder to myself for not being able to sail through social and sensory situations like others and to realise that limiting interactions that cause me distress, or 'bailing out' of situations that have become unbearable, are legitimate things to do. Once you know your limitations are valid, it is easier to create 'work arounds' where once you might have felt that muddling through was the only option.

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