Friendships are hard and post-diagnosis

Hey everyone, 

I am recently diagnosed autistic (have known my whole life but was diagnosed with OCD instead). Since getting my diagnosis I have found it really difficult to mask, which in a lot of ways is really good but in other ways it’s making me realise that actually I don’t really have any friends who know the real me. 

I’m 26 and have 0 social life, I basically just go to work and uni then come home again… I was wondering how you all find adult friendships when being autistic, as I often find them quite draining/ confusing but also I feel lonely. 

I’d love if there was a big group just for autistic women to make pals in, and I’m going to have a look at some groups in my local area I can maybe attend if they are online, as getting public transport can put me off going out really easily. 

Anyway, this is my first post on here and I hope you all have a lovely day :) 

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  • Yeah I’m lucky I tend to text a lot when I have something on my mind from a situation I can’t understand or process but they know what I’m like and are happy to have about 30 messages over explaining and then I go round in loops thinking I’ve explained it wrong and then decide I’ve used the not so precise language that they may interpret it wrongly so give myself anxiety…. All before they’ve even read my message Joy. Luckily my friends are good and usually get me early on anyway.

    i have old friends who know I prefer a comfortable silence or a game of blackjack etc so let me have some peace with company which is nice. It’s hard making friends when you meet people who like going clubbing and things or to the horse races and chaotic activities 

  • That’s my favourite way to hang out! I call it alone together- doing different things but  in the same room 

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