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Friendships are hard and post-diagnosis

_Poetchi

Hey everyone, 

I am recently diagnosed autistic (have known my whole life but was diagnosed with OCD instead). Since getting my diagnosis I have found it really difficult to mask, which in a lot of ways is really good but in other ways it’s making me realise that actually I don’t really have any friends who know the real me. 

I’m 26 and have 0 social life, I basically just go to work and uni then come home again… I was wondering how you all find adult friendships when being autistic, as I often find them quite draining/ confusing but also I feel lonely. 

I’d love if there was a big group just for autistic women to make pals in, and I’m going to have a look at some groups in my local area I can maybe attend if they are online, as getting public transport can put me off going out really easily. 

Anyway, this is my first post on here and I hope you all have a lovely day :) 

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  • Good morning from America, _Poetchi!

    _Poetchi said:
    but was diagnosed with OCD instead

    Man, I feel like I hear of women getting diagnosed with OCD and BPD instead of ASD all the time. That’s a shame it was delayed, but I’m glad to hear that you are diagnosed ASD now!

    So for me, most of my friends I made while I was a university student. I don’t know how they could and can stand to be around me, but since it’s been over ten years since college I’m pretty certain by now they’ve seen the real me. I think most of them I met via a shared interest (marching band). They’re all over the United States now, none of them live near me, so our communication is solely texting and video chat via Discord. Sometimes it just takes some time and patience to see who sticks around.

  • in reply to profdanger

    Thank you for sharing this! This is really lovely- I’m thinking about joining a group at my local community centre, or having a look at my Uni societies to see what’s there! I’m so happy you have found a solid group of friends :) 

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