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Friendships are hard and post-diagnosis

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Hey everyone, 

I am recently diagnosed autistic (have known my whole life but was diagnosed with OCD instead). Since getting my diagnosis I have found it really difficult to mask, which in a lot of ways is really good but in other ways it’s making me realise that actually I don’t really have any friends who know the real me. 

I’m 26 and have 0 social life, I basically just go to work and uni then come home again… I was wondering how you all find adult friendships when being autistic, as I often find them quite draining/ confusing but also I feel lonely. 

I’d love if there was a big group just for autistic women to make pals in, and I’m going to have a look at some groups in my local area I can maybe attend if they are online, as getting public transport can put me off going out really easily. 

Anyway, this is my first post on here and I hope you all have a lovely day :) 

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  • I hear you and I love that I’ve found this post. I signed up today to write this. Friendship are soooo hard i would love to find a group of autistic women lol. So I’ve been recently diagnosed which then made a lot of my life make sense. I’ve never really had friends and struggled to feel accepted or wanted by people as I don’t understand them or they find me too emotional or too much over what they find strange reasons. Recently the past year I made some friends but after my diagnosis which I told them about they began gaslighting me, saying oh you’re only upset about that because you have ASD etc. I spoke to family who were troubled by this and pointed out these people were not being true friends. I didn’t walk away with my head held high oh no, I cried, begged for their friendship asked for reasons why because I needed to understand what I had done wrong, because there must be something wrong with me right? I’m now at the point where I’ve realised as painful as it is to admit the truth is they don’t understand me and have turned away. I need to do the same I find people who truly get me, so here I am reaching out 

  • in reply to NAS88746

    Lovely to have you here too! I would say more, but it's post school pick up and it always takes me a bit to settle back down after that and my brain to start working again!

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