Friendships are hard and post-diagnosis

Hey everyone, 

I am recently diagnosed autistic (have known my whole life but was diagnosed with OCD instead). Since getting my diagnosis I have found it really difficult to mask, which in a lot of ways is really good but in other ways it’s making me realise that actually I don’t really have any friends who know the real me. 

I’m 26 and have 0 social life, I basically just go to work and uni then come home again… I was wondering how you all find adult friendships when being autistic, as I often find them quite draining/ confusing but also I feel lonely. 

I’d love if there was a big group just for autistic women to make pals in, and I’m going to have a look at some groups in my local area I can maybe attend if they are online, as getting public transport can put me off going out really easily. 

Anyway, this is my first post on here and I hope you all have a lovely day :) 

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  • Hello  

    Welcome to the community! 

    Many autistic people struggle with friendships and find them draining, so you are not on your own. I struggled with friendships but I have found it easier to stay friends with just a few people as I’ve grown older. My close friends have dogs (one of my interests), and my dogs and I enjoy meeting one or other for a walk and sometimes we have breakfast or lunch. I rarely do any other type of socialising.

    I am wondering if your university has a Neurodiversity Officer? They might have suggestions for suitable groups that would cater to your interests.

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  • Hello  

    Welcome to the community! 

    Many autistic people struggle with friendships and find them draining, so you are not on your own. I struggled with friendships but I have found it easier to stay friends with just a few people as I’ve grown older. My close friends have dogs (one of my interests), and my dogs and I enjoy meeting one or other for a walk and sometimes we have breakfast or lunch. I rarely do any other type of socialising.

    I am wondering if your university has a Neurodiversity Officer? They might have suggestions for suitable groups that would cater to your interests.

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