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I'm curious, how do women/girls on the spectrum deal with dating?

SJH1994

I'm asking this as a male, so hope its okay, as its just a subject I was curious about

I often here how there is a difference in autistic behaviours between boys/men and girls/women, I was just wondering how this pans out in the dating world? I know a lot of males struggle in this regard, and are not as easy at hiding autistic traits such as social awkwardness, whereas women on the whole -I underline ON THE WHOLE, seem to be better at masking and dealing with social situations, I was wondering if there are any women who may have difficulty in this regard, ie feeling a bit overwhelmed, struggled with social situations and have not been able to participate in dating and are single as a result, or whether anyone has not really struggled so much, as I have seen it mentioned that autistic women are more likely to be partnered/married than autistic men.

Note-My experience with this and my current situation is fairly typical of many autistic men

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  • I have always been hopeless at "dating" and have only gone on blind dates a handful of times in my life. I met my partner at work and got to know him over several months before we got together. I work in a career which attracts a lot of neurodivergent people. Both my partner and myself have a lot of autistic traits but neither of us have a formal diagnosis (yet). I would suggest if you have an opportunity through work or hobbies to get to know someone who is on your wavelength you can start getting to know them over time and then see if things progress. I think that for me personally, "dating" was not very effective (I am pretty introverted).

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  • I have always been hopeless at "dating" and have only gone on blind dates a handful of times in my life. I met my partner at work and got to know him over several months before we got together. I work in a career which attracts a lot of neurodivergent people. Both my partner and myself have a lot of autistic traits but neither of us have a formal diagnosis (yet). I would suggest if you have an opportunity through work or hobbies to get to know someone who is on your wavelength you can start getting to know them over time and then see if things progress. I think that for me personally, "dating" was not very effective (I am pretty introverted).

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