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I'm curious, how do women/girls on the spectrum deal with dating?

SJH1994

I'm asking this as a male, so hope its okay, as its just a subject I was curious about

I often here how there is a difference in autistic behaviours between boys/men and girls/women, I was just wondering how this pans out in the dating world? I know a lot of males struggle in this regard, and are not as easy at hiding autistic traits such as social awkwardness, whereas women on the whole -I underline ON THE WHOLE, seem to be better at masking and dealing with social situations, I was wondering if there are any women who may have difficulty in this regard, ie feeling a bit overwhelmed, struggled with social situations and have not been able to participate in dating and are single as a result, or whether anyone has not really struggled so much, as I have seen it mentioned that autistic women are more likely to be partnered/married than autistic men.

Note-My experience with this and my current situation is fairly typical of many autistic men

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  • My dating history was never really great prior to meeting my husband. I never truly connected and struggled with putting on this front that didn't really feel like I was myself. I knew my husband back in school, then 10 year after leaving school we got together. We have now been together 10 years, with him I was myself instantly, there was no hiding or trying to supress my weirdness I guess lol He gets me, and I get him and I think that is the key point, you need to find someone you can honestly be yourself around without feeling scared. 

    I am newly diagnosed, so never really knew back then, but it all fit into place regardless, but I know there are some people with autism that cannot handle touch, my daughter for example is 17 and has said they could never ever imagine dating anyone and they absolutely hate the thought. So I really think it all depends on the person! 

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  • My dating history was never really great prior to meeting my husband. I never truly connected and struggled with putting on this front that didn't really feel like I was myself. I knew my husband back in school, then 10 year after leaving school we got together. We have now been together 10 years, with him I was myself instantly, there was no hiding or trying to supress my weirdness I guess lol He gets me, and I get him and I think that is the key point, you need to find someone you can honestly be yourself around without feeling scared. 

    I am newly diagnosed, so never really knew back then, but it all fit into place regardless, but I know there are some people with autism that cannot handle touch, my daughter for example is 17 and has said they could never ever imagine dating anyone and they absolutely hate the thought. So I really think it all depends on the person! 

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