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I'm curious, how do women/girls on the spectrum deal with dating?

SJH1994

I'm asking this as a male, so hope its okay, as its just a subject I was curious about

I often here how there is a difference in autistic behaviours between boys/men and girls/women, I was just wondering how this pans out in the dating world? I know a lot of males struggle in this regard, and are not as easy at hiding autistic traits such as social awkwardness, whereas women on the whole -I underline ON THE WHOLE, seem to be better at masking and dealing with social situations, I was wondering if there are any women who may have difficulty in this regard, ie feeling a bit overwhelmed, struggled with social situations and have not been able to participate in dating and are single as a result, or whether anyone has not really struggled so much, as I have seen it mentioned that autistic women are more likely to be partnered/married than autistic men.

Note-My experience with this and my current situation is fairly typical of many autistic men

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  • I’ve never dated anyone and I’m 26 in December! Only time I have been asked out was in secondary schools and when I refused them I got bullied for it and then got bullied into “going out” but nothing happened. But I feel that was more just kids being stupid and cruel as I went to a very rough school. If anyone has approached me since then my dad scares them off and says I’m not ready for relationships. I guess I am just hoping the right guy will come along one day, even if I don’t get married till like 40

  • in reply to Elfilis

    I'm the same, looking back I don't think school years are a good example of somewhere to look back on and think of as mature and meaningful relationships, even if it is good practice, as we have so little life experience at this time and haven't developed into our full selves. I like to think it gets better with age and social development [even with autism in the background], even though nothing of that nature has happened to me yet

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  • in reply to Elfilis

    I'm the same, looking back I don't think school years are a good example of somewhere to look back on and think of as mature and meaningful relationships, even if it is good practice, as we have so little life experience at this time and haven't developed into our full selves. I like to think it gets better with age and social development [even with autism in the background], even though nothing of that nature has happened to me yet

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  • in reply to SJH1994

    In school people just want to act all grown up and they think going on dates is a cool thing but as you say it’s such a young age to take things seriously. Again I think it’s all just stupid crushes and lust at that age but that’s what I got from the grotty school I went to. I mean the amount of crushes and dates and no doubt more stuff all started off like a fairy tale with the couples at first but after a few months it turned bad as they regretted fancying etc. all I can say is love sounds very complicated