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I'm curious, how do women/girls on the spectrum deal with dating?

SJH1994

I'm asking this as a male, so hope its okay, as its just a subject I was curious about

I often here how there is a difference in autistic behaviours between boys/men and girls/women, I was just wondering how this pans out in the dating world? I know a lot of males struggle in this regard, and are not as easy at hiding autistic traits such as social awkwardness, whereas women on the whole -I underline ON THE WHOLE, seem to be better at masking and dealing with social situations, I was wondering if there are any women who may have difficulty in this regard, ie feeling a bit overwhelmed, struggled with social situations and have not been able to participate in dating and are single as a result, or whether anyone has not really struggled so much, as I have seen it mentioned that autistic women are more likely to be partnered/married than autistic men.

Note-My experience with this and my current situation is fairly typical of many autistic men

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  • In general, I think that it is accepted that autistic men have more difficulties in initiating romantic/sexual relationships than allistic men and autistic women have a higher chance of being abused within a romantic/sexual relationship than allistic women. This is at least partly due to the societal expectation that males play a greater role in the initiation of such relationships. As a woman, having difficulties in decoding non-verbal communication, as most autistics do, is less of a barrier to intimacy. Basically, the signals that a woman finds a man attractive are more subtle than the reverse, in most cases. 

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  • In general, I think that it is accepted that autistic men have more difficulties in initiating romantic/sexual relationships than allistic men and autistic women have a higher chance of being abused within a romantic/sexual relationship than allistic women. This is at least partly due to the societal expectation that males play a greater role in the initiation of such relationships. As a woman, having difficulties in decoding non-verbal communication, as most autistics do, is less of a barrier to intimacy. Basically, the signals that a woman finds a man attractive are more subtle than the reverse, in most cases. 

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