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Happy to be single?

Littlemissanxious

Hello everyone,

I have been single for the last 3 years and out of the 4 serious relationships I have been in 3 have been abusive in different ways. The most recent wasn't however he was just not very pleasant so I ended it. I now feel too scared to even think about another relationship,  to the point I make absolutely no effort to socialise with new people. Part of me feels sad about this as I am im my 40s and always just presumed I would meet "Mr Right" and that would be it. 

I just wondered do people find their autism/adhd a big barrier in relationships? I feel my issue is I am too trusting and I believe what people tell me. I always like to see the good in people even when it's clear that they do not really have good intentions.  I just sinply do not have the feeling of wanting anyone in my life other than my  wonderful children. Maybe I will just get a pet once my children are grown! 

Sorry for the ramble, I think honestly it's not so much that I am wanting a relationship,  more like I feel I "should" as that's the "norm" expected of me. Its tiring hearing the question "is anyone new on the scene ". I now just reply with a simple "no". 

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  • Yeah, 'happy enough to be single' would pretty much sum it up for me. My marriage, to an autistic woman, ended when I walked out and I've spent the last few years beating myself up over it as I deeply regret it. It's my own fault but she's better off without me. I see my kids, who I didn't contest against her, on a fairly regular basis and me and her try to stay friends, though this has been strained as my mental health has become increasingly worse. My only hope is that I'll somehow get better and learn to live with myself more. I'm not impossible to live with but I can't imagine that anyone would want to, unless it's a landlord who I'm paying rent to. 

    Make the most of the time with your children. Blush But I know that it's hard not to have that special someone to snuggle up to, and all the stuff that comes with relationships when, as human beings, it is probably something that we all crave at some time or another. 

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  • Yeah, 'happy enough to be single' would pretty much sum it up for me. My marriage, to an autistic woman, ended when I walked out and I've spent the last few years beating myself up over it as I deeply regret it. It's my own fault but she's better off without me. I see my kids, who I didn't contest against her, on a fairly regular basis and me and her try to stay friends, though this has been strained as my mental health has become increasingly worse. My only hope is that I'll somehow get better and learn to live with myself more. I'm not impossible to live with but I can't imagine that anyone would want to, unless it's a landlord who I'm paying rent to. 

    Make the most of the time with your children. Blush But I know that it's hard not to have that special someone to snuggle up to, and all the stuff that comes with relationships when, as human beings, it is probably something that we all crave at some time or another. 

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