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John1234John

Hello,

my daughter was diagnosed in march. We moved her to a new school which has really helped with her shutdowns. How we are in the summer holidays things have taken a backwards step. We have tried to keep an element of structure to her day and most of the time during the day she is happy and engaging, however, it seems like the last 20 mins before she goes to sleep she gets upset. She can’t explain why she feels like this. Sometimes it’s an hour or two of chatting and hugging, other times she gets violent. During this time whatever we try to suggest to help (cold drinks, hugs, weighted blanket, car ride, play a game, ) doesn’t.. then suddenly after say an hour she says she’s going to bed and goes to sleep.. 

We don’t understand what starts or stops the shutdowns 

can anyone help?

thanks

john

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  • Perhaps give an advanced warning of bed time, so say to her “10 minutes”. It could well be she is struggling with switching tasks and suddenly being told it’s bedtime without warning may trigger extreme anxiety. The outbursts of violence may be because of a perceived lack of control over the situation. Night times I find are the worst for me, the world shuts down and you are aware there isn’t much going on to keep you occupied. 

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  • Perhaps give an advanced warning of bed time, so say to her “10 minutes”. It could well be she is struggling with switching tasks and suddenly being told it’s bedtime without warning may trigger extreme anxiety. The outbursts of violence may be because of a perceived lack of control over the situation. Night times I find are the worst for me, the world shuts down and you are aware there isn’t much going on to keep you occupied. 

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