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Impending "change of life"

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I'm trying to tap into different resources. I have tried, several times to post on here over the past few months but have been unable to do so due to my own resistance.

It is apparent now, I am in the pre "change of life" phase. I don't need a doctor to tell me this. I am ahead of my peers on this matter and have difficulty discussing my problems anyway.

What I am struggling with, is confusion because there are a)no patterns to when I experience symptoms, b)experience some things which are slightly a-typical and possibly linked to being neurodivergent c)experience symptoms for a while which then go away for a long time (extreme sound sensitivity being a major one).

The mental resilience which I have built up over the past few years to get me through life, which often is a cognitive process seems to be dwindling recently and this bothers me. I thought I had built strong foundations since burnout but not being able to identify patterns which would help me understand what's happening is leaving me confused.

And it's the confusion which is causing me the biggest problem.

I am not going to the GP. I have already read the NAS links and didn't find them helpful. I do what I'm supposed to pertaining to lifestyle choices. I'm quite self sufficient when it comes to dealing with myself.

I suppose I'm asking : due to the way we process the world, (alexithymia,  difference in interoception etc) have other women found this stage of life (potentially more) confusing? Due to communication and social issues, have you found it difficult to talk to or reach out or explain to others (be it formally to health professionals or informally to friends)?

I'm not really after any concrete answers. I'm hoping posting this might help with some sort of clarity. There's a chance I might end up deleting this.

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  • I have definitely been experiencing the impact of perimenopause/menopause over the last 4 years or so. I didn’t want to take HRT so I’ve just been trying to manage basically. I’ve been experiencing a reduction in confidence, more anxiety issues, a lot of confusion about what I want to do in my life and difficulty making choices. Some hot flushes but nothing extreme in terms of that thankfully. Some depressive days. But it’s also coincided with my parents being ill and dying - and sometimes it’s hard to work out the interactions between life events and hormones and what is causing what symptom. Obviously I’ve never found life easy due to being autistic - but I think life feels harder recently. It’s not easy to say the least. I suspect that being autistic possibly exacerbates menopausal issues in many ways. Sorry - this isn’t a very positive reply! I find that if I can have a peaceful existence I’m actually ok most of the time - but add any stress and I soon do not do well at all. I hope you can find things that help you through the symptoms and issues that menopause presents. 

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  • I have definitely been experiencing the impact of perimenopause/menopause over the last 4 years or so. I didn’t want to take HRT so I’ve just been trying to manage basically. I’ve been experiencing a reduction in confidence, more anxiety issues, a lot of confusion about what I want to do in my life and difficulty making choices. Some hot flushes but nothing extreme in terms of that thankfully. Some depressive days. But it’s also coincided with my parents being ill and dying - and sometimes it’s hard to work out the interactions between life events and hormones and what is causing what symptom. Obviously I’ve never found life easy due to being autistic - but I think life feels harder recently. It’s not easy to say the least. I suspect that being autistic possibly exacerbates menopausal issues in many ways. Sorry - this isn’t a very positive reply! I find that if I can have a peaceful existence I’m actually ok most of the time - but add any stress and I soon do not do well at all. I hope you can find things that help you through the symptoms and issues that menopause presents. 

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