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Late diagnosed

Chloe1980

Hello

I've just been diagnosed with Autism but told my family about a year ago I was going for it, got my adhd diagnosis April 2024. I don't know if it's just me but I feel my family have been so dismissive, to me this is life changing, I've had poor mental health my whole life with quite serious epsiodes that my famly know about and the person that has reacted the absolute worst is my own mother, people who reacted the best, my undiagnosed neurodivergent friends that Ive known since childhood.

I've had alot of comments like 'everyone has problems' 'everyone is a little bit ADHD' to purely just ignoring it, like one perosn I know said 'Ha! interesting" like am I going mad? I don't think, in fact I know if someone opened up to me and told me that I would see the enormatity of it. My Mum also won't acknowledge my comments about my daugher having it either. We just had an argument as I opened up and said she was upsetting me with her lack of interest and she flew off the handle and said everyone has problems and that why am I always so sensitive and I havent even asked how she is lately. Some people I've told and theyve simply not got back to me.

Is this a common occurance?

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  • Similar problem myself. I avoid talking about it with my family who I still love very much. I do not want it to be a hot topic and a deciding factor. My late diagnosis of ASD helps me mentally because I think it has absweredza lots of questions I have asked myself over my lifetime. My wife thinks that I just want to collect so called "labels" which makes me laugh internally. Why would anyone wish to collect labels unless the label reflects the true reality? My wife also likes to point out anything I do which in her opinion shows that I am not autistic. Clearly she knows more about me than me, lol and she knows better that the psychiatrist who assessed me. One day she said to me that I am more ADHD than ASD, interesting thought. I am now on the list for an ADHD assessment, funny but now my wife points out things I do which prove me to not be ADHD. For me, all I want to know is more about who I am and why I find some things more of a struggle than other people. My current journey started a few years back after a mental breakdown. I am trying to helps my mental self. 

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  • Similar problem myself. I avoid talking about it with my family who I still love very much. I do not want it to be a hot topic and a deciding factor. My late diagnosis of ASD helps me mentally because I think it has absweredza lots of questions I have asked myself over my lifetime. My wife thinks that I just want to collect so called "labels" which makes me laugh internally. Why would anyone wish to collect labels unless the label reflects the true reality? My wife also likes to point out anything I do which in her opinion shows that I am not autistic. Clearly she knows more about me than me, lol and she knows better that the psychiatrist who assessed me. One day she said to me that I am more ADHD than ASD, interesting thought. I am now on the list for an ADHD assessment, funny but now my wife points out things I do which prove me to not be ADHD. For me, all I want to know is more about who I am and why I find some things more of a struggle than other people. My current journey started a few years back after a mental breakdown. I am trying to helps my mental self. 

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