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Late diagnosed

Chloe1980

Hello

I've just been diagnosed with Autism but told my family about a year ago I was going for it, got my adhd diagnosis April 2024. I don't know if it's just me but I feel my family have been so dismissive, to me this is life changing, I've had poor mental health my whole life with quite serious epsiodes that my famly know about and the person that has reacted the absolute worst is my own mother, people who reacted the best, my undiagnosed neurodivergent friends that Ive known since childhood.

I've had alot of comments like 'everyone has problems' 'everyone is a little bit ADHD' to purely just ignoring it, like one perosn I know said 'Ha! interesting" like am I going mad? I don't think, in fact I know if someone opened up to me and told me that I would see the enormatity of it. My Mum also won't acknowledge my comments about my daugher having it either. We just had an argument as I opened up and said she was upsetting me with her lack of interest and she flew off the handle and said everyone has problems and that why am I always so sensitive and I havent even asked how she is lately. Some people I've told and theyve simply not got back to me.

Is this a common occurance?

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  • Why I've been very selective on who I;ve told - one parent doesn't know , same with my sister.  

    Only told 1 friiend who I see a couple of times a year, that didnt go great.  In a few weeks meeting a small group, who I know (should we say through my specialist interest) havent seen them for 6 months, and do I say anything.  I mean they're probably the closest I've got to friends but again may only see them a couple of times a year.

    Understand it's a big deal for you, sadly most won't see it that way.

    I also feel that with the press of the so called "surge" in people being diagnosed as ND/ASD then I feel it's not the greatest time to go shouting out about my diagnosis - certainly wouldn't tell my neighbours of 11 years or go putting it on Facebook

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  • Why I've been very selective on who I;ve told - one parent doesn't know , same with my sister.  

    Only told 1 friiend who I see a couple of times a year, that didnt go great.  In a few weeks meeting a small group, who I know (should we say through my specialist interest) havent seen them for 6 months, and do I say anything.  I mean they're probably the closest I've got to friends but again may only see them a couple of times a year.

    Understand it's a big deal for you, sadly most won't see it that way.

    I also feel that with the press of the so called "surge" in people being diagnosed as ND/ASD then I feel it's not the greatest time to go shouting out about my diagnosis - certainly wouldn't tell my neighbours of 11 years or go putting it on Facebook

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