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Should this room be private

TheCatWoman

The name of this room is Women and girls, so why are men able to see it and post in it? I know nothing on the internet is really private and that anybody can create a profile, but can't we have at least an illusion of privacy? I'm surprised that NAS has a room called Women and girls which is public, why bother with it at all?

Personally I would like a female only space, men could have a men only space too. I've just known to many men who get their jollies reading about things like periods.

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  • Only allowing women would prevent a trans or nonbinary person who may, for example, menstruate from having the resource the women do. Would make anyone who wasn't cisgender female feel discluded.
    To set up would require more steps in sign-up as well as a more complicated forum which both could be inaccessible to some.

    "I've been on other sites that have gender designated spaces, that have been prone to male members creating female avatars just as they can come in and see whats going on"

    What would prevent the same thing from happening here? 
    Maybe do not make a post about a topic or include information that you would be uncomfortable with a man reading.

    "72 genders? Wow Where did that comes from?"

    There is no set number of genders and even biological sex is more diverse than male and female. 
    Cisgender woman, Cisgender man, Intersex, Transgender woman, Transgender man, Transfem, Transmasc, Non-binary, Gender-fluid, Genderqueer, Agender, Demi-girl, Demi-boy, Demi-gender, Gender-flux, Bigender, 2-spirit, Neuro-genders, and many more.
  • in reply to spidey_sydney

    I really hate the term cisgender, it seems to be a semi insult to those of us who choose to remain the gender we were asigned at birth. The way that it's increasingly being written about seem presume ignorance that we can change our gender and that we must all be anti trans. I know and have been taught by trans people, I don't actually have a problem with trans people, it must be awful to have been born into a body that dosen't fit. One of my school friends has a long clitoris when she was born and her parents were told she was a boy, then they found out she was a girl and all thw questions and ignorance came out, this was 1962, a time when many parents who's babies sex counldn't be determined were told to bring the child up as their preferred gender, so much trauma came out of this. All this was before we could look into a persons biology and prove that there more than an X and Y chromasome, there are so many variations and thats just on a physical level, on a spiritual one it must be horrible as theres even more prejudice to overcome.

    I wish we could get to a state of being where we didn't have to pigeon hole ourselves and others where we could just be people. To be honest what someones gender or orientation or whatever tends to right over my head, it dosen't bother me most of the time, but there are some occaisions when it does and I'd like the respect afforded to me that I do my best to afford to everyone else.

    I never post anything online that I don't want in the public domain, I might be old and autistic, but I'm not stupid, lol

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Cisgender is a description just the same as Transgender, or Neurotypical compared to Neurodivergent, Disability, and any of those terms can be used in a harmful way but they in themselves are not negative.

    "I wish we could get to a state of being where we didn't have to pigeon hole ourselves and others where we could just be people."

    Not have to pigeon hole and just be people . . . but have a private area for the women's section that would require identifying a specific way and not just being a person.

    "I never post anything online that I don't want in the public domain, I might be old and autistic, but I'm not stupid, lol"

    What is the issue of a man seeing it then?
  • in reply to spidey_sydney

    Because we don't live in a world where things like gender and sexual orientation don't matter.

    Because we do live in a world where men being able to see somethings, enter some places is a problem.

    Mostly I'm just asking what people think of having a room thats called Women and girls, thats not exclusively theres because its open to all?

    I think cisgender is often used in a derogatory way.

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  • in reply to spidey_sydney

    Because we don't live in a world where things like gender and sexual orientation don't matter.

    Because we do live in a world where men being able to see somethings, enter some places is a problem.

    Mostly I'm just asking what people think of having a room thats called Women and girls, thats not exclusively theres because its open to all?

    I think cisgender is often used in a derogatory way.

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