Hello,
Me and my husband aren’t getting along. I’m so emotionally drained because I feel like he is being the unreasonable one!
I was diagnosed with autism at 43 (2years ago) and I am awaiting for assessment for ADHD (app next week).
I do not work because of my mental health (anxiety and depression) and I do struggle daily with minor tasks.
My husband has known about my issues for a while and he was the one who encouraged me to get assessed for autism but he is now saying that I have got worse since my diagnosis and that I’m making excuses for my behaviour.
I do not agree at all. I believe that he thought that as soon as I got a diagnosis, then I would be ok if that makes sense? I try to get him to watch online educational videos with people with ADHD to explain why I think I have this condition too as I was made aware in my autism assessment that I had many of the traits of ADHD.
If I get a diagnosis of adhd next week, I will definitely be asking to take the medication as I feel like this would definitely help me cope better with my issues but until then I just feel like every day is the same. My head is scrambled and now I feel like I have no support from my husband.
He has flat right refused to educate himself and he uses the sort of language that I find offensive (everyone is a bit autistic or a bit adhd). Does anyone else have these difficulties or is it me that’s the problem?
I am very emotional at the moment and really not sure if I should even send this post.
Thanks
