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What is it like for you making friends

emmy2654

I was officially diagnosed with level 2 autism about three days ago. when they called to talk about the results they gave my parents ideas about going out and different groups to make friends. However I have trouble making friends and keeping them I only have one friend at the moment and that’s all I feel I can manage. I feel if I had more it would just cause me stress and physically and mentally wear me out as that has happened in the past. I feel like if I had more than one friend it would cause a lot of drama and problems that I couldn’t handle. How do you all manage to make friends and handle more than one friend without getting tired and mentally and physically worn out.  

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  • Very difficult. Perhaps impossible.

    I don’t really know what to say to people until I have a mental model of them and this makes first meetings and impressions very difficult. Environments like work where we are forced to spend time together are very useful as that gives me time to understand the person and what they like to talk about.

    All my adult “friends” have been via work, but I realise they are not true friends. I see other work colleagues forming real outside of work relationships and doing things together but this doesn’t happen for me.

    Then there’s remembering people exist and that they expect me to initiate communication fairly regularly…

    And yet I am desperate to have people in my life.

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  • Very difficult. Perhaps impossible.

    I don’t really know what to say to people until I have a mental model of them and this makes first meetings and impressions very difficult. Environments like work where we are forced to spend time together are very useful as that gives me time to understand the person and what they like to talk about.

    All my adult “friends” have been via work, but I realise they are not true friends. I see other work colleagues forming real outside of work relationships and doing things together but this doesn’t happen for me.

    Then there’s remembering people exist and that they expect me to initiate communication fairly regularly…

    And yet I am desperate to have people in my life.

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