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What is it like for you making friends

emmy2654

I was officially diagnosed with level 2 autism about three days ago. when they called to talk about the results they gave my parents ideas about going out and different groups to make friends. However I have trouble making friends and keeping them I only have one friend at the moment and that’s all I feel I can manage. I feel if I had more it would just cause me stress and physically and mentally wear me out as that has happened in the past. I feel like if I had more than one friend it would cause a lot of drama and problems that I couldn’t handle. How do you all manage to make friends and handle more than one friend without getting tired and mentally and physically worn out.  

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  • Both making and maintaining friendships has always been a struggle. I decided to stop face to face socialising within the last 12 months because I couldn't handle the logistics of it all. I'm not one of those people who can just 'hang out' and I find it really awkward and difficult to relax.

    I have people that I see and say hello to in the gym where I work, but the only person I spend real time with is my partner. Everything else really drains me.

    I find online friendships much easier, and especially easier if they're ND too.

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  • Both making and maintaining friendships has always been a struggle. I decided to stop face to face socialising within the last 12 months because I couldn't handle the logistics of it all. I'm not one of those people who can just 'hang out' and I find it really awkward and difficult to relax.

    I have people that I see and say hello to in the gym where I work, but the only person I spend real time with is my partner. Everything else really drains me.

    I find online friendships much easier, and especially easier if they're ND too.

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  • in reply to Neuroqueer

    I find myself in exactly the same situation, it’s not that I dislike people, I just find friendships too demanding, I never know if I’ve said too much, not enough or the correct thing. It’s as if I’m in a play and trying to get all the lines correct. 

    I’m always on my guard and don’t know if I trust people or if they have an ulterior motive.

    I'm quite happy just being with my wife, I don’t have to mask so  much. She understands that I often need time alone. I’m happier listening to nature than people, they seem too noisy.