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What is it like for you making friends

emmy2654

I was officially diagnosed with level 2 autism about three days ago. when they called to talk about the results they gave my parents ideas about going out and different groups to make friends. However I have trouble making friends and keeping them I only have one friend at the moment and that’s all I feel I can manage. I feel if I had more it would just cause me stress and physically and mentally wear me out as that has happened in the past. I feel like if I had more than one friend it would cause a lot of drama and problems that I couldn’t handle. How do you all manage to make friends and handle more than one friend without getting tired and mentally and physically worn out.  

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  • It’s difficult. Now looks like I’m loosing the only friend I have (in real life), I can say I have few online friends from this forum, sometimes I wish I could meet them (we live far away from each other) but at the same time I’m happy that I’m in touch with someone without all this hustle that comes with meeting in person (breaking the routine, risk of changing plans, noise and chaos in the town). I heard It’s not good to be isolated and only communicate online, I feel like I would like to meet someone sometimes but I have no one to meet. I don’t have official diagnosis, so I also can’t join any local support group. At least I could join here. It’s hard I don’t know if I can advise anything. I used to try masking in the past - I stood with a group of people and smiled, nodded and tried to make eye contact and generally mimic their gestures to blend in and be like them and to finally find some friend, but it was impossible, although the masking itself was exhausting. At that time I had no idea about autism and I had no help at all. I also feel like having more than one friend is too much. 

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  • It’s difficult. Now looks like I’m loosing the only friend I have (in real life), I can say I have few online friends from this forum, sometimes I wish I could meet them (we live far away from each other) but at the same time I’m happy that I’m in touch with someone without all this hustle that comes with meeting in person (breaking the routine, risk of changing plans, noise and chaos in the town). I heard It’s not good to be isolated and only communicate online, I feel like I would like to meet someone sometimes but I have no one to meet. I don’t have official diagnosis, so I also can’t join any local support group. At least I could join here. It’s hard I don’t know if I can advise anything. I used to try masking in the past - I stood with a group of people and smiled, nodded and tried to make eye contact and generally mimic their gestures to blend in and be like them and to finally find some friend, but it was impossible, although the masking itself was exhausting. At that time I had no idea about autism and I had no help at all. I also feel like having more than one friend is too much. 

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