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What is it like for you making friends

emmy2654

I was officially diagnosed with level 2 autism about three days ago. when they called to talk about the results they gave my parents ideas about going out and different groups to make friends. However I have trouble making friends and keeping them I only have one friend at the moment and that’s all I feel I can manage. I feel if I had more it would just cause me stress and physically and mentally wear me out as that has happened in the past. I feel like if I had more than one friend it would cause a lot of drama and problems that I couldn’t handle. How do you all manage to make friends and handle more than one friend without getting tired and mentally and physically worn out.  

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  • Congratulations on your diagnosis.

    Maybe try to connect with people who share some of your interest, I guess that would feel like less pressure and give you something to talk about. 

    I have one person I can call a friend. We don’t do social things like go out to places but I do go round to his mostly for a cup of tea and we talk. He is adhd and bipolar. Although we are very different he understands me and I understand him. I have many acquaintances and as awful as this sounds I don’t consider them to be friends, I don’t maintain those relationships and they have stopped asking me to do things as I refused so much in the past . The problem I find is that I expect too much from them as a person, most I know are quite selfish and shallow. A friend for me should be kind, easy to be with and have a strong sense of justice, unfortunately these are rare qualities. 
    I am not a fan of going out and socialising anyway as it’s too costly but I hope one day I could perhaps find a friend who shares some of my interests. 

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  • Congratulations on your diagnosis.

    Maybe try to connect with people who share some of your interest, I guess that would feel like less pressure and give you something to talk about. 

    I have one person I can call a friend. We don’t do social things like go out to places but I do go round to his mostly for a cup of tea and we talk. He is adhd and bipolar. Although we are very different he understands me and I understand him. I have many acquaintances and as awful as this sounds I don’t consider them to be friends, I don’t maintain those relationships and they have stopped asking me to do things as I refused so much in the past . The problem I find is that I expect too much from them as a person, most I know are quite selfish and shallow. A friend for me should be kind, easy to be with and have a strong sense of justice, unfortunately these are rare qualities. 
    I am not a fan of going out and socialising anyway as it’s too costly but I hope one day I could perhaps find a friend who shares some of my interests. 

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