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Gracie

I was diagnosed August last year after about 18 months, it all makes sense however I struggle so much at college, and driving at the moment is a real struggle. I get so nervous and just see the danger in everything, I found I have been a lot slower than many and I’m just not getting better. This is a big problem in my eyes as I rely on friends to take me to and from college, I have been used to this for a while now. However the anxiety I face when I have to get the bus, especially on long days or days I have work, it gets too much, I can’t sleep if I know I have to get the bus, and no one understands me, my parents know about my diagnosis obviously but I don’t think they ever actually take it into account, and I can’t talk to any of my friends about it as they don’t get it, they obviously get anxious and have anxiety but it doesn’t stem from the same reasons of my anxiety. It’s just been really hard recently and I feel really lost at how to cope. Does anyone else struggle with things like this and know how to deal with it? 

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  • Gracie said:
    It’s just been really hard recently and I feel really lost at how to cope

    Have you worked with a pychotherapist with experience in working with autists?

    It does sound like your anxiety is taking over some important aspects of your life so my approach in your shoes would be to get a therapist who understand my unique challenges and work on getting to the route cause of the anxiety, develop coping mechanisms that work for you and deal with whatever underlying cause is making the anxiety so bad (it seems to be trauma related in most cases).

    A useful skill I learned long ago that helps me with the anxiety is Mindfulness. It helps me use my concious mind to shut down the intrusive caremongering from my subconcious mind by using rationalisation techniques.

    It take a lot of practice but when used in conjunction with meditation has allowed me to take on all sorts of challenges in life.

    Not everyone gets on with it though for whatever reason so it isn't a sure-fire solution.

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  • Gracie said:
    It’s just been really hard recently and I feel really lost at how to cope

    Have you worked with a pychotherapist with experience in working with autists?

    It does sound like your anxiety is taking over some important aspects of your life so my approach in your shoes would be to get a therapist who understand my unique challenges and work on getting to the route cause of the anxiety, develop coping mechanisms that work for you and deal with whatever underlying cause is making the anxiety so bad (it seems to be trauma related in most cases).

    A useful skill I learned long ago that helps me with the anxiety is Mindfulness. It helps me use my concious mind to shut down the intrusive caremongering from my subconcious mind by using rationalisation techniques.

    It take a lot of practice but when used in conjunction with meditation has allowed me to take on all sorts of challenges in life.

    Not everyone gets on with it though for whatever reason so it isn't a sure-fire solution.

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