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Teenager feeling behind in life

sapphic_disaster

Hi, I'm 16 and was recently diagnosed with autism having prevsoily been diagnosed with dyslexia and dyspraxia at 5. My mum has had suspicions since 6/7. Anyways, I've recently started sixth form and I've made zero friends making me feel isolated and unlovable. At my previous school I had a great group of friends but the enviromoent to make friends here t isn't rly compatible with my sensory needs. this has only added to my feelings of being behind in life- no first kiss, *** at make-up, no parties or anything else associated with the typical teenage experience such as reading festival. While I'm aware that those activates would be painful and a sensory overload I still feel left out and falling behind. Can anyone else relate? 

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  • Hi, I’m recently 17 and relate to you completely. I left school back in 2021 after getting super anxious and depressed after lockdown. I shut my life down completely and pushed my friends away. I’m now so much happier and more confident in myself, and I feel ready to be ‘a normal teenager’ but really I couldn’t be. I’m now doing my alevels online as I did my GCSE’s, and I just wish I could be in sixth form, going to parties and having my first kiss, but I tried the smallest sixth form and only lasted three days. It’s so unfair because I feel like I’m ready to do these things, but at the same time i know I’m not and I know that I would hate it all. It’s horrible feeling left out but not being anywhere near able to join in, and not knowing if it’s really what I want.

    The other night my next door neighbor had a Halloween house party and it was so loud and in my face. It was awful and I felt so lonely and angry with my situation. It has really affected me as I have been feeling sad and being ‘normal’ is all I can think about.

    Half of me knows that my life is good and what I can cope with, and I am working on making it bigger, but the other half of me is desperately struggling with being so lonely.

    But I know from hearing stories and from knowing myself that this won’t last forever. And that my time will come to go to parties and have a boyfriend, it’s just not now. I don’t think I’m meant to be a teenager and soon I won’t be.

    Sorry this isn’t helpful at all but it’s nice to know that others feel the same.

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  • Hi, I’m recently 17 and relate to you completely. I left school back in 2021 after getting super anxious and depressed after lockdown. I shut my life down completely and pushed my friends away. I’m now so much happier and more confident in myself, and I feel ready to be ‘a normal teenager’ but really I couldn’t be. I’m now doing my alevels online as I did my GCSE’s, and I just wish I could be in sixth form, going to parties and having my first kiss, but I tried the smallest sixth form and only lasted three days. It’s so unfair because I feel like I’m ready to do these things, but at the same time i know I’m not and I know that I would hate it all. It’s horrible feeling left out but not being anywhere near able to join in, and not knowing if it’s really what I want.

    The other night my next door neighbor had a Halloween house party and it was so loud and in my face. It was awful and I felt so lonely and angry with my situation. It has really affected me as I have been feeling sad and being ‘normal’ is all I can think about.

    Half of me knows that my life is good and what I can cope with, and I am working on making it bigger, but the other half of me is desperately struggling with being so lonely.

    But I know from hearing stories and from knowing myself that this won’t last forever. And that my time will come to go to parties and have a boyfriend, it’s just not now. I don’t think I’m meant to be a teenager and soon I won’t be.

    Sorry this isn’t helpful at all but it’s nice to know that others feel the same.

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