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More challenging with age

Gremlin

Has anyone experienced life feeling more difficult as they get into their 30s and 40s?

I think someone posted a link a while ago to a paper on this but I lost the tab (I usually keep dozens open) and can't find the conversation again.

I can't put my finger on why. Are symptoms getting worse or am I just less willing to comply with the way things "should be done". I find myself increasingly impatient with my partner and using the phrase "you should understand me by now" or "you should know this by now". I feel like I can just no longer be the one to put my energy into things. Why should I be making such a huge effort all the time for other people's lives to be so easy. 

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  • Gremlin said:
    I feel like I can just no longer be the one to put my energy into things.

    I think this explains why it is getting difficult. You are stopping putting in the effort you once did.

    My experience is that life required energy input all the way until the grim reaper comes for you - once you stop trying then it starts getting worse and worse.

    Gremlin said:
    Why should I be making such a huge effort all the time for other people's lives to be so easy. 

    For the same reason you may expect others (your partner perhaps) to make an effort for you. Any sort of interaction is a two way situation and if you don't put in any effort then soon enough the other party(ies) will do the same and stuff starts to get hard.

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  • Gremlin said:
    I feel like I can just no longer be the one to put my energy into things.

    I think this explains why it is getting difficult. You are stopping putting in the effort you once did.

    My experience is that life required energy input all the way until the grim reaper comes for you - once you stop trying then it starts getting worse and worse.

    Gremlin said:
    Why should I be making such a huge effort all the time for other people's lives to be so easy. 

    For the same reason you may expect others (your partner perhaps) to make an effort for you. Any sort of interaction is a two way situation and if you don't put in any effort then soon enough the other party(ies) will do the same and stuff starts to get hard.

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