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Friendships

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How do I build up a wall in my heart against getting hurt in a friendship, when a colleague doesn't want to have the same intensity of friendship as I do. I normally don't let anyone get close to me, but if there's someone who I connect with I can't help but feel like I've been best friends with them for years and the friendship isn't reciprocated in the same way. The other person is more polite than wanting to build a close friendship. I don't know how to pull my friendship and heart back. Can anyone give me advice plz x

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  • cant give advice, im useless with friends lol

    i did think i was friends with work colleagues but then 2 of them blocked me on facebook and one of them tried to get me fired and im getting paranoid about everyone now as im suspecting any more to backstab me for no reason and im on my final warning so anyone could just report me for anything and get me fired for a laugh now. so i dont understand even basic work friendships as it seems deceitful and backstabbing all the time and not true friendships.

    id reccomend never trusting anyone at work as a friend, they will act against you while playing friend to your face. then when they have blocked you on facebook they likely have already acted behind your back and sent a report on you at work for whatever they could do to try and get your fired or get themselves promoted off getting you in trouble.

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  • cant give advice, im useless with friends lol

    i did think i was friends with work colleagues but then 2 of them blocked me on facebook and one of them tried to get me fired and im getting paranoid about everyone now as im suspecting any more to backstab me for no reason and im on my final warning so anyone could just report me for anything and get me fired for a laugh now. so i dont understand even basic work friendships as it seems deceitful and backstabbing all the time and not true friendships.

    id reccomend never trusting anyone at work as a friend, they will act against you while playing friend to your face. then when they have blocked you on facebook they likely have already acted behind your back and sent a report on you at work for whatever they could do to try and get your fired or get themselves promoted off getting you in trouble.

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  • in reply to Caelus

    Hi Caelus 

    That’s a real shame to hear that grownups can still behave like cruel children in a playground. 

    I would say don’t trust most work colleagues. My wife has worked for the same company for a very long time. She has moved regionally and been promoted countless times. She has always made friends easy and got too involved with them, as soon as her role changes they disappear. It seems to me that we can all tell ourselves that most (not all) colleagues can be genuine friends but these people are not someone you have approached for friendship, they just happened to be there and it’s convenient. My wife says I’m not very sociable but I think that’s how we protect ourselves from dangerous individuals. True friendships take a long time to form in my opinion.