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Friendships

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How do I build up a wall in my heart against getting hurt in a friendship, when a colleague doesn't want to have the same intensity of friendship as I do. I normally don't let anyone get close to me, but if there's someone who I connect with I can't help but feel like I've been best friends with them for years and the friendship isn't reciprocated in the same way. The other person is more polite than wanting to build a close friendship. I don't know how to pull my friendship and heart back. Can anyone give me advice plz x

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  • I have had this issue too. I have had people that try and form a connection with me and they end up no longer making any effort to maintain/build on the friendship. They got what they needed from me or they have other connections they'd rather pursue. The hardest thing is accepting that some times you're going to have people that are either just being polite or are just using you. Not everyone is like that, there's going to be some likeminded people :)

    I think making friends at work is hard, there's the expectation that just because you work together you need to a good relationship. This relationship is typically a working one, meaning it only exists at work, which I find quite confusing at times. Have you only experienced this sort of rejection at work?

    You shouldn't stop being yourself, there's people out there that will like you for who you are. But be careful of overstepping boundaries, if someone doesn't want the same intensity of relationship as you then you'd need to respect that and give them space. 

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  • I have had this issue too. I have had people that try and form a connection with me and they end up no longer making any effort to maintain/build on the friendship. They got what they needed from me or they have other connections they'd rather pursue. The hardest thing is accepting that some times you're going to have people that are either just being polite or are just using you. Not everyone is like that, there's going to be some likeminded people :)

    I think making friends at work is hard, there's the expectation that just because you work together you need to a good relationship. This relationship is typically a working one, meaning it only exists at work, which I find quite confusing at times. Have you only experienced this sort of rejection at work?

    You shouldn't stop being yourself, there's people out there that will like you for who you are. But be careful of overstepping boundaries, if someone doesn't want the same intensity of relationship as you then you'd need to respect that and give them space. 

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