Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey I’m 22 (F) 23 in 2 months, in a relationship with a 35 (m)
He’s got 2 kids 11(m) and 9(m) that stay with us 1 day a week not a lot I know. But I feel like a parent all the time if I’m not helping look after the boys I’m basically taking care of my partner. I cook I clean I do the washing I support him financially.
Im seeing a youth worker at the moment and she thinks I’ll be better off away from him as our relationship isn’t the best. I’m really struggling but at the same time I don’t want to leave him. I do love him and he says he loves me. But there are issues. He seems to think that a relationship is 75% bedroom visits (if you know what I mean) whereas I’m not interested in that what’s so ever and I don’t feel the same way. These aren’t our only issues but it’s the one that crops up the most often. Am I wrong? is there something wrong with me? Has anyone else felt this way? Am I harming him more by being this way? Thanks
Relationships should be 50/50. You shouldn't be doing all the running, it should be equal effort between you both. It sounds like he's using you. You're not a doormat, you deserve to treated fairly and shouldn't be doing all the running. A relationship won't last if it's like that.
It certainly feels that way but I don’t know how to change it his dad says I need To stick up for myself against him but he’ll go off in a paddy if I do and o can’t be bothered with it