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Sensory discomfort genitals

NAS88168

Hello,

I wondered if anyone has been in a similar position and has any advice.

My daughter (5) is an autistic ADHDer. She has massive sensory discomfort from clothing generally, but over the last few weeks she is increasingly uncomfortable even when naked.

She has said today she doesn’t like her vulva as there are bits that aren’t flat and flush to her body. 

We have always used correct a anatomical terms and hopefully created a open dialogue about bodies without shame. She just doesn’t like the wet sensation or feel. I’m at a total loss! 

Her self injurious behaviours are getting worse and she has threatened to ‘rip it off’. We have a CAHMS in 3 weeks but thought someone may have experienced the same. 

Thanks 

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  • NAS88168 said:
    as there are bits that arenโ€™t flat and flush to her body

    I know a transmasc and he has the same problem but for other body parts. Though dysphoria and dysmorphia are not the same thing they often present as similar in terms of behaviour and feelings towards parts of the body. Obvs you do not want a surgical fix on such a young child for a problem that isn't the body part itself, and you don't need to consider any kind of gender issue unless there have been other signs, but using "binding" as inspiration perhaps a different kind of underwear that holds everything closer to the body could be a stop-gap solution. If your daughter wants to be for lack of a better term "barbie doll smooth" to negate sensory issues then that can be achieved by underwear with  a stronger gusset and a different shape. Sadly without shelling out for bespoke clothing the off the rack stuff like knickers are made of of what looks like paper thin cotton with not a lot of guff to them however the cotton in boxers is usually twice as thick and the different shape might help as long as the size isn't too loose.
    Sadly when it comes to sensory issues it is very disabiling so it comes down to having to wear what is comfortable and toheck with what it looks like for a lot of autistic folks.
    Best of luck to you in finding a solution OP.

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  • NAS88168 said:
    as there are bits that arenโ€™t flat and flush to her body

    I know a transmasc and he has the same problem but for other body parts. Though dysphoria and dysmorphia are not the same thing they often present as similar in terms of behaviour and feelings towards parts of the body. Obvs you do not want a surgical fix on such a young child for a problem that isn't the body part itself, and you don't need to consider any kind of gender issue unless there have been other signs, but using "binding" as inspiration perhaps a different kind of underwear that holds everything closer to the body could be a stop-gap solution. If your daughter wants to be for lack of a better term "barbie doll smooth" to negate sensory issues then that can be achieved by underwear with  a stronger gusset and a different shape. Sadly without shelling out for bespoke clothing the off the rack stuff like knickers are made of of what looks like paper thin cotton with not a lot of guff to them however the cotton in boxers is usually twice as thick and the different shape might help as long as the size isn't too loose.
    Sadly when it comes to sensory issues it is very disabiling so it comes down to having to wear what is comfortable and toheck with what it looks like for a lot of autistic folks.
    Best of luck to you in finding a solution OP.

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