Should I get back with my ex

I've been in a relationship on and off for the last month. We're no longer together but he wants us to be. I've never been in a relationship before so not entirely sure I know what I'm doing, I try my best but I am going through some personal mental health problems which have caused physical health decline as well

My ex also has a few problems going on as well, one major one is he's lost someone and he's struggling to work through it. I feel bad because with my autism and lack of connection I don't know what to say or do to help him. I can only listen but that's really not any good for him

Because of the stress for him and me I have ended our relationship before, quite a few times now but he messaged back and I trying again because he wanted me to and said we could make this work

From the stress of it all and his grief he can get a little worked up and overthink things. At times he hasn't been the nicest in his words, said I broke his heart and that I was vicious towards him which actually made me cry for a long time as I always try to be really nice to everyone

So last night I ended things again but he's messaged again since and is asking for us to give things another go

And now I don't know what to do. A part of me wants to do this but another part doesn't and I'm in two minds as to what to do for the best

My mum says I should ignore the messages and block him but I don't want to be cold and horrible

My friend says it's my decision but she thinks we would make a lovely couple

Parents
  • I struggle to understand and recognise my own feelings. I would say I do love him but I'm not sure I do as much as I did when we first met cause he seems to have changed and I've seen him at worse times but I know he's not really like that it's just stress

    Things are a bit rocky and I'm at fault as well my head has been all over the place and I've been laid up in hospital for nourishment and kidney treatment for a while. Now wasn't a good time for either of us

    I think your right about taking a break. I will suggest this again I'm just hoping he can agree he tends to message again really soon after

    Thanks anyway your a big help :) 

Reply
  • I struggle to understand and recognise my own feelings. I would say I do love him but I'm not sure I do as much as I did when we first met cause he seems to have changed and I've seen him at worse times but I know he's not really like that it's just stress

    Things are a bit rocky and I'm at fault as well my head has been all over the place and I've been laid up in hospital for nourishment and kidney treatment for a while. Now wasn't a good time for either of us

    I think your right about taking a break. I will suggest this again I'm just hoping he can agree he tends to message again really soon after

    Thanks anyway your a big help :) 

Children