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Masking, personality and hobbies

Vicky

Hey!

I got diagnosed as an adult so I’m pretty sure I’ve been masking my whole life and still not very open with people.  I know I’ve been copying other people (real, famous, fictional).

The question is, how do you know where the masking stops and the real you begins?  How do I know what personality and hobbies and even what clothes I wear are really mine?

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  • The bits that are really you, are bits you really like and make you happy.

    If you have clothes you actually like wearing - then you like them and would have bought them whatever you did or didn't know about your neurological status.  If you hate them, bin them 'cos they were only ever about pleasing someone else.

    Got a hobby?  Do you derive pleasure from that hobby? Yes?  It's not masking.  No? Then, it is and it might be useful to ask yourself why you were doing it?  Who did it please for you to do it?  What purpose was it really serving?

    Basically, just ditch everything you aren't totally comfortable with.

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  • The bits that are really you, are bits you really like and make you happy.

    If you have clothes you actually like wearing - then you like them and would have bought them whatever you did or didn't know about your neurological status.  If you hate them, bin them 'cos they were only ever about pleasing someone else.

    Got a hobby?  Do you derive pleasure from that hobby? Yes?  It's not masking.  No? Then, it is and it might be useful to ask yourself why you were doing it?  Who did it please for you to do it?  What purpose was it really serving?

    Basically, just ditch everything you aren't totally comfortable with.

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