Hello everyone - I’m in a major crisis and don’t know where to turn just looking for support, I guess.
I’m in my late 50’s and in February this year was diagnosed with Autism. It had never occurred to me up until the previous August that this was the reason why my life was so difficult. I had CBT for 9 weeks then my therapist said he wasn’t qualified to deal with the deep issues I have due to my childhood and put me back on the waiting list. Despite telling them twice that I’m in crisis and a very dark place, they haven’t followed up.
I discovered a month ago that I’m suffering with extreme menopause symptoms and have been placed on HRT.
Myself and my children think my husband has undiagnosed Inattentive ADD. He’s got us into terrible debt so many times, he’s lied about our mortgage and he owes in excess of £116 k as he’s only been paying interest for the last ten years. He lies all the time.
He forgot to enter financial details for our youngest child’s student loan despite promises and reminders. We set up so many ways to help him but he “forgets” to use them. He has zero motivation and yet again has lost his job! He won’t fill in the forms for his ADD referral - he’s in denial and can never say “I forgot”. This is having such a profound and damaging effect on all our lives. We’re all out of ideas on what to do. We stand to lose our house and he won’t do anything.
Im in a bad way with my mental health. I’m dealing with so much. I don’t want to support him anymore because it all feels like such a waste of my very precious energy because he forgets what you advise him to , won’t make lists and then lies and gets defensive. I’m so broken, so tired. My youngest daughter says I’m not very nice because I don’t want to support him anymore. The strain of masking to the outside world is exhausting.
Does anyone have any ideas, please
