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Help the school is killing us.

lofty
We believe our son who is 11yrs old has Autistic Spectrum Disorder and we are starting the process for Statutory Assessment. He is currently at Secondary School which he hates and struggles with and he is on part time learning where he goes into school Mon,Tues & Weds. He has also been excluded 3 times since he has started in September. The school have informed us that he is on the highest level of support. The school has referred him to a Paediatrician, where he has an appointment on 16/04/12. Could anyone help us with the question how long it takes to get a diagnosis/report from the Paediatrician (the school Psychologist has done a report already and she has sent it Paediatrician and we also have a copy). Our question is when is the best time to send the letter to request a Statutory Assessment, should we send it now or wait until our son has seen the Paediatrician (we feel that we should be sending it now). We are so concerned for our son as he hates school and we are certain that he is going to get excluded again which is so demoralising for him and us. We don’t think we will get any information about the Statutory Assessment until September? We feel that we would like to take him away from this school, but if we change schools now will this affect the Statutory Assessment, but how is our son going cope with this school until end of July. Is there any school that would take him in the interim or is this a bad move. We also very concerned that he is falling behind in his education at this important time . We are trying to give him lessons at home on his days of exclusion and the Thurs and Fri he is not at school. We have requested work to sent home but this is hit and miss and we have to request it and understand their teaching methods as we are not teachers. We adopted our son at the age of 5 and he has struggled through school even before we adopted him where he was on a part time schedule then but he was full time when he started school with us after the adoption. But we have got him through Primary School even though it was a struggle and he was excluded a couple times then. We wish the professionals has given us more advice and help and we would have requested Statutory Assessment before now. We would be grateful for any advice on this difficult time. We are certain that once our son gets the support and help he deserves and needs he will flourish.

  • Hi

    I am new to this forum so bear with me!! My son was diagnosed with Aspergers and dyspraxia aged nine although I knew things weren't right from start.He had his first appointment at aged 5 - so it took four years for official diagnosis. My son is now almost 16. It was hard going getting people to listen and to do the right thing for him and I am still battling schools!! I wish I had home educated him - have just read a fab book called Home educating our aspergers children. I just wanted to say " Hang on in there!!" Your son's behaviour will improve -my son used to lash out and throw the most horrendous tantrums - usually in public!! He has grown in to a lovely lad who has his eccentricities and his quirks which just make me love him all the more.It has been a tough road with more bumps to go over but you get there!

    All the best for you and your very special boy!

  • Hi Lofty

    I can relate to a lot of points in your post, my son is in a similar situation.

    Can I ask how you are getting on these days. Did your son get a diagnosis, did you manage to get a statement? I am asking as your experiences might help me in my decisions I am trying to make just now.

    I do hope things are going better, I have watched my son tormented and frustrated in his schooling for many years.

    Good Luck with everything x

  • Thanks Starchild

    It is so nice to hear from other people - this was my first discussion like this.  My son is a lovely boy, we adopted him when he was 5 and all the family love him but at school this demon comes out.  Many a time I would like to be a fly on the wall. 

     

  • Hi

    I have a son who is now 8 years old.

    We had the same problem we did not even get him through infant school with out problems, So you are not alone. The school had a statement for my son and refused to do things even suggested by the  Paediatrician and the speech language etc.

    My son loved school with one helper but they changed and changed helpers, Until my son hated it.He would not get dressed, he would bite and kick so in the end I took him out and I home teach him.

    I just banged my head against brick wall after brick wall. It is not easy with his sleep problems etc, But it was the best move for us at this time. I appreciate your son needs the help and support with the senior school.

    I wanted to bring my son up as normal as possible in a state school, But he found it very hard. The only suggestion we had was either teach him at home, or send him to a special school, Where the teachers and helpers understand.

    The paediatricians report usually take about 4-6 weeks, I personally would wait for this before doing anything, Otherwise you just have the word of the school etc. You are better off waiting for a full report off the doctor. If you feel you must do it now you could and say you have the appointment and will send that report in at a later date.

    At the moment home teaching my son is all right, But I have the same problem when he hits 11 and needs to go to a senior school, I personally think we will end up sending our son to a special school.

    They have programmes and advice for senior children sitting GCSE's etc, They do activities with them go camping etc, Plus they actually get work placements for people with ASD and Aspergers .

    I do hope you find a way forward with your son, It is not easy you have to fight all the way for everything, I have found this out myself along the way.