Secondary education

Hi,

I have 3 children, 10, 7 and 6.  My 7 year old boy has autism.  He was diagnosed early and has had effective intervention, meaning he copes well at primary school with support.  I am hoping he will be statemented next year, as the school has promised to start the process when he is in year 3.

I have started to think about secondary education.  I'm very concerned about this, as I think he could have a very tough time in a mainstream school.  I know he has to learn to get by in the real world, but I think secondary school is a particularly cruel place and I don't know if he needs to go through such an experience to cope with real life.  He is very bright and loves to learn, especially in numeracy and science.  I think a special school for mild learning difficulties could enhance his learning and he would feel safer.

Also, I think it would be unfair on my other 2 children to have the worry of his wellbeing while they are tackling their own issues at secondary school.  I know it's a few years off, but I'm constantly thinking about it.  I don't know if the final choice would even be mine.

I'd love to hear from anyone who has knowledge, experience or advice in this area.  I haven't met another parent of an autistic child and it's been a lonely journey so far.

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  • Hi There

    Can I ask how things are going for your son. My boy has recently been diagnosed in Lancashire aged 14! I am determined to have him statemented now but school are being obstructive & I am dependent on them to trigger the statement process. The head senco says they can deal with children within their budget. However my son has fell behind further and further year on year so clearly they cannot meet his needs. Further this same person refuted my concerns that my son may have aspergers or autism stating he was just lazy, manipulative and stubborn... My son is a placid well behaved child who is frustrated and tormented in his environment. 

    Maybe we can share ideas and tips... Do you understand the statement process? 

    Hope things are well 

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  • Hi There

    Can I ask how things are going for your son. My boy has recently been diagnosed in Lancashire aged 14! I am determined to have him statemented now but school are being obstructive & I am dependent on them to trigger the statement process. The head senco says they can deal with children within their budget. However my son has fell behind further and further year on year so clearly they cannot meet his needs. Further this same person refuted my concerns that my son may have aspergers or autism stating he was just lazy, manipulative and stubborn... My son is a placid well behaved child who is frustrated and tormented in his environment. 

    Maybe we can share ideas and tips... Do you understand the statement process? 

    Hope things are well 

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