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What strategies do parents use when it gets too much?

struggling mum

My son went missing today after an argument. Thankfully found safe and well at a local friends house. The time between however was sheer panic, drove round looking for him then almost had to call police cause didn't know what else I could do. I dealt with the situation extremely calmly as per but inside I feel totally overwhelmed. It's me a tough year for us both and I'm struggling to cope repeating this pattern of seeming calm but totally overwhelmed inside. We have some good people in our lives but I resist confiding in them as despite their good intentions I either end up having to calm them down (they panic) or I feel judged (well my child would never do that etc) Wondered how other parents cope what you do when they feel overwhelmed please? X

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  • We have considered asking our daughter of she would be happy having an app on her phone so we can see where she is. She likes to go pokemon hunting, and also bug hunting, and we know she is responsible, but also has no sense of time. She seemed receptive to it when we asked, and it would give us piece of mind as well (Plus she would probably forget its on her phone very quickly). Also we hav said if we know where she is, we would not have to come and find her so often.

    I am not saying this is a perfect solution, but for us its something we are looking at if she consents, but it woudl make her life and ours easier.

    As for feeling overwhelmed, we have 2 other children as well, and with 3 of them its very hard to find a way to calm down and relax. We spend most of our time seperating them out so they all have a calm time, as they do not play well together.

    We try and find at least 1 evening a week where we enforce an early night for all the children and sit and have a regular quiet evening with maybe a glass of wine. One day we may get  weekend away too, though its a bit of a pipe dream at the moment.

    Hang in there! You are not alone!

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  • We have considered asking our daughter of she would be happy having an app on her phone so we can see where she is. She likes to go pokemon hunting, and also bug hunting, and we know she is responsible, but also has no sense of time. She seemed receptive to it when we asked, and it would give us piece of mind as well (Plus she would probably forget its on her phone very quickly). Also we hav said if we know where she is, we would not have to come and find her so often.

    I am not saying this is a perfect solution, but for us its something we are looking at if she consents, but it woudl make her life and ours easier.

    As for feeling overwhelmed, we have 2 other children as well, and with 3 of them its very hard to find a way to calm down and relax. We spend most of our time seperating them out so they all have a calm time, as they do not play well together.

    We try and find at least 1 evening a week where we enforce an early night for all the children and sit and have a regular quiet evening with maybe a glass of wine. One day we may get  weekend away too, though its a bit of a pipe dream at the moment.

    Hang in there! You are not alone!

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