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problems after restraint

dionsmum

hi all, my name is tracey and i am a mother to 6 children. my youngest 2 children are still living at home, they are nat who is 19 and dion who is 14. my son dion has downs syndrome and was diagnosed 3 years ago asd, i had been battling for 6 years for his diagnosis. dion has hardly any speech but uses makaton quite well, he has severe developmental delay. dion has always been the kindest of children, cuddly and friendly, does as he is told and a real star in our lives....but then....5 weeks ago there was a minor incident at school during changing in p.e lesson, the incident snowballed and as the school said "there were errors in the handling of the incident" the end result being the restraint of my son. since this day our whole life has changed and my son has changed also. he is anxious and nervous and has had a few more meltdowns. last night the lady that looks after him 2 nights a month phoned as he was having a meltdown, she admitted fueling the situation by shouting at him and then crying. i feel like just keeping my son with me all  the time, am i the only person that can see the early warning signs? i have told these professsionals triggers, things that calm dion quickly etc but they just do there own thing. i can see us becoming isolated from the world as these different parts of his life are falling apart. could do with some advice from those that really understand, you parents out there that reallyunderstand...

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  • Thankfully "corporal punishment" is now illegal in this country but if David Cameron gets his way I fear that a great many children who have difficulties are going to be at risk as he seems determined to allow teachers to use "force" yet reluctant to define in clear terms what is "excessive" force.

    What you endured as a child David clearly stayed with you, and that is my fear for my son. Two years on, he has nightmares and begs not to have to go to school.

    I think that although he is not with those people that he percieved hurt him in the classroom, the fact that they are still working there and he sees them every day must be horrific for him.

    I will not rest until these child abusers are brought to justice because that is what I believe they are. Not teacher but child abusers and they are not fit to look after any child, never mind a child who has disabilities.

    I just cannot understand why we are being left to fight without help and suppport.

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  • Thankfully "corporal punishment" is now illegal in this country but if David Cameron gets his way I fear that a great many children who have difficulties are going to be at risk as he seems determined to allow teachers to use "force" yet reluctant to define in clear terms what is "excessive" force.

    What you endured as a child David clearly stayed with you, and that is my fear for my son. Two years on, he has nightmares and begs not to have to go to school.

    I think that although he is not with those people that he percieved hurt him in the classroom, the fact that they are still working there and he sees them every day must be horrific for him.

    I will not rest until these child abusers are brought to justice because that is what I believe they are. Not teacher but child abusers and they are not fit to look after any child, never mind a child who has disabilities.

    I just cannot understand why we are being left to fight without help and suppport.

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