problems after restraint

hi all, my name is tracey and i am a mother to 6 children. my youngest 2 children are still living at home, they are nat who is 19 and dion who is 14. my son dion has downs syndrome and was diagnosed 3 years ago asd, i had been battling for 6 years for his diagnosis. dion has hardly any speech but uses makaton quite well, he has severe developmental delay. dion has always been the kindest of children, cuddly and friendly, does as he is told and a real star in our lives....but then....5 weeks ago there was a minor incident at school during changing in p.e lesson, the incident snowballed and as the school said "there were errors in the handling of the incident" the end result being the restraint of my son. since this day our whole life has changed and my son has changed also. he is anxious and nervous and has had a few more meltdowns. last night the lady that looks after him 2 nights a month phoned as he was having a meltdown, she admitted fueling the situation by shouting at him and then crying. i feel like just keeping my son with me all  the time, am i the only person that can see the early warning signs? i have told these professsionals triggers, things that calm dion quickly etc but they just do there own thing. i can see us becoming isolated from the world as these different parts of his life are falling apart. could do with some advice from those that really understand, you parents out there that reallyunderstand...

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  • I had a gym Master who in my first secondary school for the first two years slippered us and slapped us.

    In my second secondary school he came to as the first school closed down and he was told not to hit the boys.

    However there was only one incident he hit me in my second school.

    I remember having a fight with my Gym Master in the Changing room although it was about forty years ago.

    He laughted off the incident and told the depeuty Head Master that he was restraining me.

    I was told by other people that I could be prosecuted for defending myself against lawful corporal punishment.  No teacher could use that arguement today but I could still have been convicted  as the law stands now as he said he was restraining me not punishing me.

    After I left the school I learned that master made a habbit of attacking boys in the changing room without leaving a mark on them.

    My Gym Masters version is probably incorrect but I have to admit that there is a slight chance he was restraining me.

    The School took no action against either of us.

    I could have been prosecuted for assaulting my Gym Master and I probably would have had a criminal record as in those days the teacher was always right.

    I have Asperger Syndrome so I do not think I would be good at defending myself in Court.

    David

    Not allowed to put surname although the Gym Master is probably not alive and if he were he would be over eighty.

    Anyway it does not matter anymore if I really was restrained.

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  • I had a gym Master who in my first secondary school for the first two years slippered us and slapped us.

    In my second secondary school he came to as the first school closed down and he was told not to hit the boys.

    However there was only one incident he hit me in my second school.

    I remember having a fight with my Gym Master in the Changing room although it was about forty years ago.

    He laughted off the incident and told the depeuty Head Master that he was restraining me.

    I was told by other people that I could be prosecuted for defending myself against lawful corporal punishment.  No teacher could use that arguement today but I could still have been convicted  as the law stands now as he said he was restraining me not punishing me.

    After I left the school I learned that master made a habbit of attacking boys in the changing room without leaving a mark on them.

    My Gym Masters version is probably incorrect but I have to admit that there is a slight chance he was restraining me.

    The School took no action against either of us.

    I could have been prosecuted for assaulting my Gym Master and I probably would have had a criminal record as in those days the teacher was always right.

    I have Asperger Syndrome so I do not think I would be good at defending myself in Court.

    David

    Not allowed to put surname although the Gym Master is probably not alive and if he were he would be over eighty.

    Anyway it does not matter anymore if I really was restrained.

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