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Child choosing to not comply in school

happylilgirl

Hi

After a number of changes in class which led to a complete crisis where my child locked hinslef in a room at school.  My child refused to accept the changes and refused to participate. It was suggested that his refusal was somehow due to me. As I had advocated on his behavlf and complained about the changes.

The rsposnse I got was he has magaged other changes, however I beg to differ as I got the fall out from these.

I just want to know if this type of behaviour is common in children with autism ? Or is non compliance and no meltdown but grumpy behaviour for days/ weeks after not common? He has slowly managed to deal with some of the changes, but has stated it depends on how they are pitched at him. 

Thanks in advance

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Although we have a new diagnosis we've known for years change only works for SD16 if it's correctly pitched.

    Believing meltdowns need to be florid and involve outward expression harms the kids who present differently. It takes MASSIVE amounts of stress for our SD16 to meltdown, her usual trick is to vanish into her imagination.

    We get regular "help SD16 understand X,Y & Z" emails from the school. We always check her side of things now.  A lot of times they are assuming that a lack of "bad" behaviour means "good" behaviour, and more often than not she's just not realised she was meant to do something.

    We wish she was willing to change school - because she's  not overt in her problems no one seems to remember she's not an NT.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Although we have a new diagnosis we've known for years change only works for SD16 if it's correctly pitched.

    Believing meltdowns need to be florid and involve outward expression harms the kids who present differently. It takes MASSIVE amounts of stress for our SD16 to meltdown, her usual trick is to vanish into her imagination.

    We get regular "help SD16 understand X,Y & Z" emails from the school. We always check her side of things now.  A lot of times they are assuming that a lack of "bad" behaviour means "good" behaviour, and more often than not she's just not realised she was meant to do something.

    We wish she was willing to change school - because she's  not overt in her problems no one seems to remember she's not an NT.

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