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autism and BESD

Oldwoman75

my son has autism, learning difficulties and BESD, I'd never heard of BESD till I noticed it on his EHC, has anyone else experience in this and does it make coping any easier?

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  • oktanol said:

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    In fact. Saying 'sorry' is not in the repertoire of autistic individuals and is one of the social niceties that has to be learnt.  

    I wouldn't think so at all. Being genuinely sorry and therefore genuinely apologising comes to me very naturally and I think it does so to many others, at least those with mild forms of autism. Fake politeness is a totally different matter. Apart from finding it difficult to do it I can't even see why anyone would appreciate it - could imagine that this is also a common thing for autistic people.

    Well, my experience of life is different.  When I hurt someone's feelings unintentionally, I feel quilt and remorse, but actually saying sorry is difficult.  That kind of social behaviour I only learnt later on  in life.  Such as sorry, please, thank you etc.  

    Fake politeness, I learnt even later.

    If someone finds all this natural then I consider their autism to be mild.

    I have even been physically assaulted (and was lucky to avoid serious injury) over something that had nothing to do with me.  The assailant realised this very quickly, but didn't bother to say sorry.

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  • oktanol said:

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    In fact. Saying 'sorry' is not in the repertoire of autistic individuals and is one of the social niceties that has to be learnt.  

    I wouldn't think so at all. Being genuinely sorry and therefore genuinely apologising comes to me very naturally and I think it does so to many others, at least those with mild forms of autism. Fake politeness is a totally different matter. Apart from finding it difficult to do it I can't even see why anyone would appreciate it - could imagine that this is also a common thing for autistic people.

    Well, my experience of life is different.  When I hurt someone's feelings unintentionally, I feel quilt and remorse, but actually saying sorry is difficult.  That kind of social behaviour I only learnt later on  in life.  Such as sorry, please, thank you etc.  

    Fake politeness, I learnt even later.

    If someone finds all this natural then I consider their autism to be mild.

    I have even been physically assaulted (and was lucky to avoid serious injury) over something that had nothing to do with me.  The assailant realised this very quickly, but didn't bother to say sorry.

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