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Manners when visiting others homes

MMMcMama

My son is 22 and was diagnosed with autism when he was 3. Whenever we go anywhere he gets very anxious and has to quickly familiarize himself with the new location. When visiting peoples homes he usually starts in the kitchen and checks cupboards etc. If he sees food sitting on a cupboard or table unattended he will eat or drink it. I usually don't notice until someone says something about his bad manners. Do I just need to leave him at home?

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  • Thank you for your reply. My son checks the "supplies" in the kitchen and worries when we don't have something or are getting close to being out also. He recently found a penny on my father's floor and my dad told him to give it back. Later he told him he could have it. He didn't understand any of it. The incident with the food was when we had stopped by my daughter's house to drop something off. It was around dinner time and they had just made tacos and it is one of his favorites. He immediately went to the kitchen and wanted a taco. I told him he didn't need to eat their food we were going to DQ in a few minutes. He was hungry and snuck into the beans and meat. My daughters husband later told her he had bad manners. He has said this more than once. Usually when I try to ask my son about his actions he turns away or ignores me. I don't yell or punish him but I do think he is very concious of doing the right thing and doesn't want to talk about his actions for fear of disapproval. Thank you again for your insight it helps to know I'm not alone.

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  • Thank you for your reply. My son checks the "supplies" in the kitchen and worries when we don't have something or are getting close to being out also. He recently found a penny on my father's floor and my dad told him to give it back. Later he told him he could have it. He didn't understand any of it. The incident with the food was when we had stopped by my daughter's house to drop something off. It was around dinner time and they had just made tacos and it is one of his favorites. He immediately went to the kitchen and wanted a taco. I told him he didn't need to eat their food we were going to DQ in a few minutes. He was hungry and snuck into the beans and meat. My daughters husband later told her he had bad manners. He has said this more than once. Usually when I try to ask my son about his actions he turns away or ignores me. I don't yell or punish him but I do think he is very concious of doing the right thing and doesn't want to talk about his actions for fear of disapproval. Thank you again for your insight it helps to know I'm not alone.

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