Hi, my son is recently diagnosed ASD, most fitting the profile of aspergers. He is a loving, smart, creative , funny boy, however, since he started secondary school his behaviour has become worse. He appears that he is unable to deal with disappointment which results in severe tantrums with anger and aggression,
If anyone has any tips out there to help us deal with the tantrums, and also if anyone could share any methods which they have taught their children to help them deal with disappointment before it gets to the tantrum stage we would be really grateful to hear. Example of recent situations:
1) he couldn't find his shin pads, he shouted at everyone saying that someone must have taken them and we must look for them. During this he will be shouting at the top of his voice, will insult us if we don't help (we will often say that we will only help if he asks nicely), punch and kick doors, more often than not, his shin pads are where he left them, just not where he looked.
2) he told us he made a mistake on FIFA and wanted more money for FIFA points. He had an old Xbox for sale on Facebook, but with no takers at the moment. He had spent all of his pocket money and was left with no money until the Xbox sold but wanted us to lend him money until it sold, to which we replied that unfortunately we weren't Iain a position to do so..... see 1) above for the reaction.
We have experienced this now 4 times in the last 24 hours for varying reasons and we feel no more armed to deal with them than 6 months ago before we had a diagnosis. Hence our plea on this site for some advice
