we need help!

our 6 year old son has asd/adhd, he is currently in a mainstream school with a statement. he has in the last 18 months had 10+ exclusions from school and now we have been told the next one will be for good! they even had someone come from the local authority to the meeting to cover them legally. he has been excluded from the class room for the past 18 months, and is on a restricted timetable, we have managed to get them up to 1pm but up until late last year he was going in at 9am and leaving school at 10:30am. when ofted have been into the school we have been told to keep him at home and he has been excluded from all school trips, saying that he is too high risk the only way he would be alloud to go is if we went with them, this is hard as we hae 4 other children one of which also has asd. 

we are at our wits end and just don't know what to do! the school have told us that he's 1-to-1 at school is now on long term sick with stress of which our son is a contributing factor and another member of staff had to go to hospital with a serpected coller bone brake by my son! who is 6 and there is nothing of him, all of which has been given as evidence to permantly exclude him.

when we have asked to see proof of this they come up empty handed, when we speak to teachers they say how great he's been but then the headteacher and SEN at the school  come out with a different story saying how awful hes been. we really want to do something leaglly in regards to the school but just don't know where to start or what to do, can anyone please help us! this is not just effecting our son but also our marriage. He has been looked at by 5 differents schools 4 of which refused on paperwork alone, mainly as as the SEN at the school said lets tart it up abit that way we will get more funding to help, all this has done is hinder our son further. The one school who said they may be able to help are miles away and after visiting the school we just don't see our son there. we just don't know what to do any more x 

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  • Thank you for all the advice that has been given so far, I have been in contact with The NAS this morning and they were great, I have someone calling me back with in the next few days that has more information inregards to education. They have also adviced that going to Ofted is proberly our next move. The problem that we have with schools, is my son is high functioning, he needs help in mainstream but is too mainstream for a special needs school, we looked at a private school not that long ago and the headteacher said he was 'too normal' to get a place if you know what I mean. We are in surrey, the local authority are now saying they have to go much further a field as according to them aawe are be difficult! we have turned down one school, we have suggested 5 which he has all been turned down for. I have requested all copies of his paper work of which 8 months worth of paper work has suddenly gone missing from the local authority! and the school are dragging their heels in giving us their copies and a copy of his school record they said they required permission to give that too us, which we know to be un-true! I am going to contact our local MP to see if they can be of any help, and I will kick up as much of a stink as I possible can! I just feel for my son so much, its really effecting him they have made him out to be different to other children which he is now being bullied at times for, he's never once been invited to a birhday part, yet when we threw him one every parent dumped their child on us! 

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  • Thank you for all the advice that has been given so far, I have been in contact with The NAS this morning and they were great, I have someone calling me back with in the next few days that has more information inregards to education. They have also adviced that going to Ofted is proberly our next move. The problem that we have with schools, is my son is high functioning, he needs help in mainstream but is too mainstream for a special needs school, we looked at a private school not that long ago and the headteacher said he was 'too normal' to get a place if you know what I mean. We are in surrey, the local authority are now saying they have to go much further a field as according to them aawe are be difficult! we have turned down one school, we have suggested 5 which he has all been turned down for. I have requested all copies of his paper work of which 8 months worth of paper work has suddenly gone missing from the local authority! and the school are dragging their heels in giving us their copies and a copy of his school record they said they required permission to give that too us, which we know to be un-true! I am going to contact our local MP to see if they can be of any help, and I will kick up as much of a stink as I possible can! I just feel for my son so much, its really effecting him they have made him out to be different to other children which he is now being bullied at times for, he's never once been invited to a birhday part, yet when we threw him one every parent dumped their child on us! 

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